Hey girls, haven’t we sat in classrooms and pews and heard teachings and messages about how change can bring a radical difference in our lives? And like me, you might also have thought that this was your neighbor and not you.

But there’s something that I heard a man of God say recently that caught my attention and reminded me something about my life – “Anytime you blame something external for your problems, you cannot make an internal change”.


Why I remained stagnant

 I could recollect those days where I blamed everyone and God for all my shortcomings and failures in life. Everyone was the reason except me. Let me elaborate – There was a phase in my life where I blamed others and God for my failures. After my graduation, when I could not find a placement, I blamed my parents for not educating me enough. When I could not crack an interview, I blamed God for being partial towards me. I reached a point where I believed that God is not for me and is against me. This delayed my progress and made me stagnant in my spiritual as well as corporate life.

But God had mercy on me. And in His mercy He sent to me my spiritual mentor Author Kim D’Souza with a promise from Gen 28:15 in early 2018. She read it out loud to me,

I am with you and will watch over you wherever you go, and I will bring you back to this land. I will not leave you until I have done what I have promised you.

As I heard her saying this, I heard God.

I realised that all God needed from Jacob was his surrender. And, all that God needs from us too is surrender.

If something needs to change, it’s me!

From that day something started to change within me. My eyes opened up to see that if something needs to change its “Me”.

Let’s rewind to the time when the first man Adam fell into sin blamed the woman God made for him. And, the woman blamed the serpent instead (Gen 3).

You see! That’s ingrained in our natural human DNA to find a scapegoat for our failures.

Having done that Adam and Eve lost the company of their creator and was expelled for the Garden of Eden. This continued with their offspring as well. (Gen 4) Cain got angry and blamed Abel for his sacrifice not being accepted by God. In his anger he killed Abel and ran away from God. If Cain only had to look into his intent behind offering God a crippled sacrifice, he would have found the reason for God’s displeasure. Instead he blamed an external factor (his brother Abel) and believed him to be the reason for God’s displeasure.




Thank God for the generation that we live in, that we have men and women sent by God to interrupt the plans of the enemy in your life. Forever grateful to my spiritual mentor Author Kim D’Souza who came in at the right time to show me that God is for me and not against me. From that point on I started to look deep into areas of my life where I kept blaming God for my failures. I changed my confession about God and started to declare His goodness in my life. And, really things started to change in my life thereafter.

When my perspective changed, things began to change

The very fact that I am loved and accepted by God gave me so much confidence that I started going boldly to face interviews and even got a job that I’m content and happy with currently. When my perspective changed, things began to change for good in my life. Surely as the Man of God said and I quote him again “Anytime you blame something external for your problems, you cannot make an internal change”.

As you read this article and are looking for things to change around you. Can I urge you “Stop the futile pursuit of changing the world around you”. Instead, be the change and ask God for wisdom and ideas to bring that very change in your life. Remember as you surrender, it may not be easy, but His grace is always going to be sufficient.

God holds us accountable to renew our minds, and not wait for others to renew theirs! And then we will be able to see the goodness of God and how He was there for us all along. As Romans 12:2 says, “Be transformed by the renewing of your mind, that you may prove what is that good and acceptable and perfect will of God’’.

Changing with the renewal of our mind will bring the best out of us!

This is a tested and proved truth in my life. May this truth be yours too in Jesus Name!

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