10 Biblical Filters for Your Man

I love the story of a girl who listed the qualities she wanted in her man. Every night, she laid hands on that list and prayed, not for God to bring that man, but for her to become the woman who could behold such a man. As she trustfully waited, God gave her much more than she asked for!

Here are 10 guidelines to prayerfully consider:

1. Does he have purpose and vision?

As a wife, you are called to support the vision your husband carries (Gen 2:18). He must seek God for a vision before seeking you!

2. Does he fear the Lord?

Does he love what God loves and hate what He hates? Look for character and fruit above gifts (Pro 16:6).

3. Is he self-seeking?

Love is not self-seeking (1 Cor 13:5). A self-obsessed man may only use you.

4. Does he exercise self-control?

Physical intimacy before time and uncontrolled anger are warning alarms (Pro 25:28; 22:24–25).

5. Is he double-minded?

A double-minded man is unstable (Jam 1:8). Uncertainty about marriage, repeated relationships or constant job changes may signal instability.

6. Can he provide for his family?

Providing for one’s household is a biblical responsibility (1 Tim 5:8).

7. Does he honour his parents and spiritual authorities?

Honour and accountability reveal much. A man who genuinely loves you will boldly approach your parents, not seek shortcuts (Eph 6:2–3).

8. Does he tithe?

Giving exposes who rules his heart. Tithing is the bare minimum. If he is stingy with God, will he be generous with you?

9. Is he faithful in small things?

Small lies become bigger lies. Faithfulness in little things matters (Luke 16:10).

10. Has he got his first button right?

Pray for a man who loves Jesus, not ministry, more than you. He may not be perfect, but because his motive is to please Jesus, he will be open to change.

Of course, no man is perfect, just as you aren’t. We are all becoming more Christ-like. And as you are waiting on God for a godly man, make sure you are prepared to behold such a man!

XOXO

Kim