Don’t Carry Someone Else’s Trash

Don’t Carry Someone Else’s Trash

by | Jul 7, 2026 | Christian Walk, Healing & Freedom

Today, something unusual happened.

I had just returned home and was unlocking the door when I noticed a small sealed packet neatly placed outside.  Since we had not been there the previous day, I assumed it was a delivery that had arrived in our absence.

Without thinking much about it, I picked it up and carried it inside.

When I opened the packet, I was shocked.

Trash

It was filled with trash.

For a moment, I just stood there wondering what had happened. Then it dawned on me -it wasn’t a parcel for me at all. It was my neighbour’s garbage, neatly packed and left outside for the trash collector.

I immediately threw it away and washed my hands. Yet even after that, I felt unsettled. Later, as I spent time praying, I brought before the Lord an issue I had been wrestling with for some time- a certain irritation that kept surfacing in my life. I had been asking Him, “Lord, where is this coming from? Why do I keep struggling with this?”

I sensed the Lord speaking to my heart: “That irritation is not yours. It is something you picked up along the way.”

The connection was immediate.

Just as I had unknowingly picked up someone else’s trash and carried it into my room, I had been unknowingly carrying patterns, attitudes, and reactions from my bloodline that were never meant to be part of my life.

As I continued praying, I felt the Lord show me that some of these patterns had travelled through generations. They had become so familiar that I assumed they were simply part of who I was. 

Not everything that runs in your bloodline has permission to define your life. Some of the thoughts that you are battling, they don’t even belong to you.

The Bible says: “Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation; the old has gone, the new has come!” (2 Corinthians 5:17)

“Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind.” (Romans 12:2)

As I prayed, I repented for agreeing with things that were never God’s design for me. I chose to let go of what I had been carrying.

Then I began declaring a greater truth:

I belong to my Heavenly Father.

His nature is my inheritance.

You were created to reflect your Heavenly Father

Maybe there are habits, thought patterns, reactions, fears, or limitations in your life that you’ve carried for so long that they feel normal. Maybe they came through family history, life experiences, or things you picked up from those around you.

Take a moment and ask the Lord to reveal their source. If He shows you something that doesn’t belong, don’t keep carrying it.

Lay it down.

Invite Him to renew your mind, heal your heart, and reshape your identity according to His truth.

You were created to reflect your Heavenly Father, and not the broken patterns of the past.

XOXO

Kim

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One moment of favour can save you 20 years of labour!

One moment of favour can save you 20 years of labour!

by | Jun 26, 2026 | Christian Walk, Identity & Calling

Favour is God’s system designed to raise His children. When God wants to raise you, He uses favour.

Think about someone trying to buy a house. They calculate how much they need for the initial payment, work overtime for a year to save it, take a loan for the rest, and then spend another 20 years repaying it.

But favour is somebody coming to you and saying, “Take the key. The house is yours.”

Favour

In one moment, favour can save you years of waiting and labour. Favour saves time. Favour pushes you ahead. This is why the Bible says that favour is to be chosen over silver and gold (Proverbs 22:1). If you enter a room and see a heap of gold, a heap of silver, and one moment of favour with the king, choose favour.

In this powerful message, Pastor Kim declares seven statements of favour that will transform your life. Each of these declarations are grounded in Scripture. Watch the full video and receive the 7 declarations of favour for your life.

We have also created a set of bookmarks featuring all 7 declarations so you can keep them close, pray over them, and speak them regularly.

Download the 7 Declarations of favour bookmarks.

XOXO

Team SoarGirls

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How to Break Free From Unhealthy Soul Ties?

How to Break Free From Unhealthy Soul Ties?

by | Jun 6, 2026 | Christian Walk, Healing & Freedom

In the last two blogs, we saw how to identify unhealthy soul ties and how we may unknowingly open doors to them. Today, we’ll look at how you can break-free from wrong soul ties.

“But He said to me, ‘My grace is sufficient for you, for My power is made perfect in weakness.’”
(2 Cor 12:9)

Your breakthrough will come when you are desperate for it. God wants to open beautiful doors in your life, but He can’t as long as you are clinging tight to that closed door. So, start by slamming the door hard to that relationship.

By faith, break the soul tie verbally using your authority in Jesus.

Soul Ties

You can say:

“I now break and sever any ungodly soul ties formed between myself and _________ as a result of ______________ in Jesus’ name.”

Inform the other person about your decision to part. Apologize and forgive if you have to.

You will literally have to wean yourself from that person in every possible way. That means cut off your phone calls, messages, social media, and clear your devices of your past communication and pictures.

Don’t agree to “just being friends.”

Don’t hang out in places where you went together.

Don’t be caught in a situation where you are alone with the person.

The more you deny yourself of the relationship, the less you begin to desire it.

Prayerfully let go, even if the other person throws an emotional fit and says words like “I will die without you”, or “You are made only for me.”

Also, if you have said these words or made some rash vows and commitments, renounce those and ask forgiveness from God. The Bible rightly says that we can be “snared” by the words of our mouth. (Prov 6:2)

When you first deny yourself of a wrong soul tie, you may sense all hell breaking loose to get you back together. You will be reminded of all the good times together and how impossible it is to turn back. But that’s the lie of the enemy, who is working overtime to destroy your destiny. But praise God, His grace is sufficient for you to overcome.

Meanwhile, start spending more time with Jesus. You do that by meditating on His Word, worshiping Him, talking to the Holy Spirit, and staying in the company of godly friends.

Don’t feel ashamed to take help from a God-fearing and mature person in the Lord, of the same sex. Humble yourself and be willing to obey as you are guided in the ways of the Lord. As God fills you with His love, the grip of the soul tie will further loosen over your life.

Things may not change overnight, but thank God, the process has begun.

We have heard so many success stories of girls like you who have not only been set free, but God has even wiped out their past memories completely.

If God can do it for them, He can for sure do it for you.

If this series blessed you, do check out our ebook Girls, Here’s What You Never Knew. This book exposes the hidden traps of the enemy and fireproofs you from relationship pitfalls. 

XOXO

Kim



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How You Can Open Doors to Unhealthy Soul Ties

How You Can Open Doors to Unhealthy Soul Ties

by | May 26, 2026 | Christian Walk, Healing & Freedom

“Above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it.” Proverbs 4:23

Last week we saw how to identify unhealthy soul ties. This week we’ll look at how unhealthy soul ties are formed. (If you missed the previous post, you can read it here on how to identify unhealthy soul ties in your life)

The most common way you can open up doors to soul ties is through emotional connections. It all starts harmless, but if you don’t guard your heart, it can soon become a snare for you.

Soul Ties

Girls, for this reason, you should avoid sharing your emotional touch points, weaknesses or past hurts to someone from the opposite sex. If you need help, first run to God and ask Him to lead you to a mature person in the Lord and of the same sex, who can help you overcome.

Similarly, if the opposite person is trying to open up his deep hurts to you, don’t entertain him, instead direct him to a mature mentor in the Lord.

Girls, beware just because a man pursues you and doesn’t give up that doesn’t necessarily mean he is from God. The reason behind his pursuit could be lust, or a soul tie in the form of an idol or loneliness. The Holy Spirit is our perfect example of a gentle man. He never forces His way to get to us.

Also remember a girl and a boy cannot be ‘best friends’ without ending up in a deeper relationship! The Bible says: So, if you think you are standing firm, be careful that you don’t fall! (1 Cor 10:12) So, guard your heart.

Unhealthy soul ties also take root through abusive relationships, sex before marriage, live-in relationships, adultery etc. These are absolutely demonic with devastating physical and emotional consequences.

You see when we give ourselves to someone fully before we are married, it creates the opportunity for deep scars and hurts. Two people may decide to get intimate ‘just for the fun of it,’ yet something is occurring on another level that they may be oblivious to.

Conversely, soul ties often lead to body ties resulting in physical relationships. Some soul ties cause such deep trauma that people lose their sense of reasoning and get into depression or become suicidal. 

Girls, if you are finding yourself in such a relationship, break it before it breaks you. 

In the next part, we’ll look at how to break free from unhealthy soul ties and walk out of such relationship bondages. Or you can also download our full devotional on how to break free from unhealthy soul ties. 

XOXO

Kim

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How To Identify Unhealthy Soul Ties In Your Life?

How To Identify Unhealthy Soul Ties In Your Life?

by | May 18, 2026 | Christian Walk

After David had finished speaking with Saul, the souls of Jonathan and David were knit together, and Jonathan loved him as himself.
1 Samuel 18:1

What exactly is a soul tie?

A soul tie is a deep emotional connection or a bond with another person. When two people come together in a good soul tie, it is a blessing as the power of God intensifies, as seen in Deuteronomy 32:30.

1 Samuel 18:1 says, “the soul of Jonathan was knit to the soul of David” (ESV). Likewise, marriage represents a good soul tie between a husband and wife because their souls are joined together as one flesh (Mark 10:8).

unhealthy soul ties

When does a soul tie become unhealthy?

A soul tie becomes unhealthy when the opposite person becomes like an idol in your life, which can lead to addictive, manipulative, or violent behavior. It can serve as bridges between two people to pass demonic garbage through!

You may see this happening in relationships or friendships subtly over a period of time without you even realizing it, which makes it even more dangerous.

Unhealthy soul ties are selfish, whereas real love is based on having Jesus as the center of your relationship and looking beyond yourself. It is the devil’s trap to keep you away from God’s best in your life and can leave you drained, damaged, and condemned.

What are the signs that you are in an unhealthy soul tie?

  • The person becomes an idol and your mind is consumed with thoughts of that individual 24/7.
  • You are constantly checking on the person, his or her social media, and rehearsing your time with him or her.
  • You become obsessive and possessive about the individual and feel jealous if he or she is around other people.
  • You can’t let go of a relationship, even when it is abusive or negatively impacting you.
  • You lose your sense of reasoning, clarity, and judgment, and all you want is to please the other person.
  • You feel worse about yourself as the relationship goes on, and your family or leaders repeatedly express concern over the health of your relationship.
  • You give the person more authority in your life than you give God.

Finding yourself locked in such a relationship? Does it look like you can never fully move on?

God wants you free and your freedom is nearer than you think. Identifying an unhealthy soul tie is the first step to your breakthrough. 

In the coming weeks, we will look at the doors we may unknowingly open that allow unhealthy soul ties to form, and how we can truly break free from such relational bondages.

Want to skip the wait? Download our free ebook on unhealthy soul ties and find your freedom today!

XOXO

Kim 

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You Are An Investment Of God

You Are An Investment Of God

by | May 4, 2026 | Christian Walk

Many of us do not live to our full potential because we do not know our value. 

Do you know that God is an investor? And He is a shrewd investor. But when you look at how God invested in us, He broke every investor’s rule.

He invested in us when there was no visible value in our lives. Many of us were in the dumps, rejected, risky, and going down in value. In the eyes of the world, we looked like a liability. But in God’s eyes, we carried great value.

God is reminding you today, “Daughter, you are My investment.”

Investment of God

Do you know that when God invested Jesus in you, He invested His best in you. He took His best and placed Him in you. 

That means you are not a nobody. You are somebody! You are a walking, talking investment of God.

Declare this to yourself every morning: I am an investment of God.

When you really understand this, the way you walk will change. The way you live will change. Your confidence will be different. Because when God invests in something, His eyes remain on it. He watches over it, protects and preserves it.

And when you become God’s investment, you become dangerous. People cannot just fight you, put you down, or harm you. When they touch God’s investment, they end up dealing with the Investor Himself.

So what qualifies you to become God’s investment? Just one thing: believe in Him. Nothing else.

Even when you are in places where there is no fear of God, or in seasons where you make mistakes, this truth does not change. You are still His investment. His good thoughts are still tracking you.

So stop devaluing yourself. Stop spending your time on things that bring your value down. Invest in yourself. Upgrade your belief system by speaking what you want to see, speaking the truth, and speaking what God says about you and your life. Build your faith in the Word of God.

Remember, you are not on your own. You are somebody’s investment.

God has not brought you this far to leave you. Do not let limitations or inferior thoughts bind you. This is your season to fly high.

XOXO

Kim Dsouza

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