This Is Why You Are Feeling Condemned..

This Is Why You Are Feeling Condemned..

by | Jul 25, 2026 | Christian Walk, Healing & Freedom

Do you ever feel condemned, especially when a Word of correction comes to you?

If yes, know that when the Word of God comes to you, it is for you to grow, make corrections, and keep growing. It is not for you to hear the Word, look at your life, and say, “Oh, I’m not doing this,” and then sit under condemnation.

That is not God’s way of functioning. The Word of God will never bring condemnation. So if you are feeling condemned, it is because you have bought the lies of the enemy.

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Many times you may get thoughts and you think those are your thoughts. But those thoughts may not be your thoughts. You may hear things like, “I cannot do much in life,” “Nobody loves me,” “My friends don’t care for me,” “They have isolated me,” or “Nobody even thinks about me.”

When such thoughts come, you need to stop them immediately because those are not your thoughts. That is the enemy speaking lies in your head.

When those thoughts come, you need to identify them. Don’t buy them or make them your thoughts.

You know you have bought them when you believe them long enough that you start speaking those lies. You call a friend and say, “Nobody cares for me.” Now the devil has made a sale. You bought his thoughts!

But when you hear thoughts that are not in alignment with the Word of God, thoughts of depression, anxiety, fear, or condemnation, open your mouth and say, “Enemy, I caught you. This is not my thought. I’m not buying your thoughts. Go find another customer.”

Don’t personalize those lies in your mind. The enemy attacks the mind. He throws thoughts that pull you down and make you feel like you are failing.

But God’s thoughts say, even if you fall seven times, rise again (Proverbs 24:16). God’s thought says, “You can do it. My mercy is new over you. Come on, build this good habit and keep spending time with Me.”

So stop buying the thoughts of the enemy and start thinking, speaking and building your life on the thoughts of God.

XOXO

Kim

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Why Do Bad Things Happen To Me?

Why Do Bad Things Happen To Me?

by | Jul 14, 2026 | Christian Walk, Healing & Freedom

Why do bad things happen to me? It’s a question I’ve asked God more than once. Maybe you’ve asked it too: “Why me, God? Why does it feel like I’m always the one going through this?”

You try to live right. You help others, sacrifice your time, serve God faithfully, and genuinely want to honor Him. Yet life still brings heartbreak, disappointment, and pain. In moments like these, it’s easy to wonder whether God allowed it or even caused it.

Here are two truths that changed everything for me#

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Truth #1: God is not the author of the evil you’re facing.

One of the biggest questions we ask during painful seasons is, “Did God do this to me?” I wrestled with that question too.

But when I looked at what Jesus said, my perspective began to change. In John 10:10, Jesus says, “The thief comes only to steal, kill and destroy; I have come that they may have life, and have it abundantly.” Jesus makes a clear distinction. The enemy comes to steal, kill, and destroy, but Jesus came to bring life, and life in abundance.

God is not looking for ways to hurt His children. Even when the enemy brings pain, Romans 8:28 reminds us that God works all things together for the good of those who love Him and are called according to His purpose. Notice what the verse says: God works in every situation to bring about good. What the enemy intends for harm, God is able to redeem for His glory and our good just as He did in Joseph’s life.

Truth #2: Your holiness or goodness cannot stop the devil from attacking you.

Maybe you’ve prayed something like this:

“God, I’ve been serving You. I give to ministries, help people, try my best to live a holy life and stay away from sin. So why do bad things keep happening to me?”

Then you look around and it seems like people who don’t even care about God are enjoying life.

They go partying, live however they want, and everything appears to be going well for them, while you’re the one struggling.

It can feel confusing and unfair.

But remember Jesus.

When Jesus was born, He was only a baby. He didn’t sin, hurt anyone, or even speak a word. Yet King Herod wanted Him dead and ordered the killing of baby boys in an attempt to destroy Him.

What had baby Jesus done to deserve that?

Nothing.

The attack wasn’t because of what Jesus had done. It was because the enemy wanted to stop God’s purpose.

In the same way, not every difficult season is the result of something you’ve done wrong. Sometimes the enemy attacks because you belong to God and because he knows God has a purpose for your life.

The good news is that the enemy doesn’t have the final say. Jesus has given us authority over all the power of the enemy (Luke 10:19). We don’t have to live in fear, we can stand firm in Christ, knowing that God is with us.

If you’ve been through painful seasons and wondered, “Why did God let this happen?” I pray this brings you peace. God did not orchestrate the bad that happened to you. Our battle is not against flesh and blood but against the powers of darkness (Ephesians 6:12). As Hosea 4:6 says, “My people are destroyed for lack of knowledge.” Knowing God’s true heart changes everything.

Need prayer or want to share what’s on your heart? Write to us, we’d love to pray for you, believe God with you, and stand with you in faith.

XOXO,

Alisha Joji

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Don’t Carry Someone Else’s Trash

Don’t Carry Someone Else’s Trash

by | Jul 7, 2026 | Christian Walk, Healing & Freedom

Today, something unusual happened.

I had just returned home and was unlocking the door when I noticed a small sealed packet neatly placed outside.  Since we had not been there the previous day, I assumed it was a delivery that had arrived in our absence.

Without thinking much about it, I picked it up and carried it inside.

When I opened the packet, I was shocked.

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It was filled with trash.

For a moment, I just stood there wondering what had happened. Then it dawned on me -it wasn’t a parcel for me at all. It was my neighbour’s garbage, neatly packed and left outside for the trash collector.

I immediately threw it away and washed my hands. Yet even after that, I felt unsettled. Later, as I spent time praying, I brought before the Lord an issue I had been wrestling with for some time- a certain irritation that kept surfacing in my life. I had been asking Him, “Lord, where is this coming from? Why do I keep struggling with this?”

I sensed the Lord speaking to my heart: “That irritation is not yours. It is something you picked up along the way.”

The connection was immediate.

Just as I had unknowingly picked up someone else’s trash and carried it into my room, I had been unknowingly carrying patterns, attitudes, and reactions from my bloodline that were never meant to be part of my life.

As I continued praying, I felt the Lord show me that some of these patterns had travelled through generations. They had become so familiar that I assumed they were simply part of who I was. 

Not everything that runs in your bloodline has permission to define your life. Some of the thoughts that you are battling, they don’t even belong to you.

The Bible says: “Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation; the old has gone, the new has come!” (2 Corinthians 5:17)

“Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind.” (Romans 12:2)

As I prayed, I repented for agreeing with things that were never God’s design for me. I chose to let go of what I had been carrying.

Then I began declaring a greater truth:

I belong to my Heavenly Father.

His nature is my inheritance.

You were created to reflect your Heavenly Father

Maybe there are habits, thought patterns, reactions, fears, or limitations in your life that you’ve carried for so long that they feel normal. Maybe they came through family history, life experiences, or things you picked up from those around you.

Take a moment and ask the Lord to reveal their source. If He shows you something that doesn’t belong, don’t keep carrying it.

Lay it down.

Invite Him to renew your mind, heal your heart, and reshape your identity according to His truth.

You were created to reflect your Heavenly Father, and not the broken patterns of the past.

XOXO

Kim

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One moment of favour can save you 20 years of labour!

One moment of favour can save you 20 years of labour!

by | Jun 26, 2026 | Christian Walk, Identity & Calling

Favour is God’s system designed to raise His children. When God wants to raise you, He uses favour.

Think about someone trying to buy a house. They calculate how much they need for the initial payment, work overtime for a year to save it, take a loan for the rest, and then spend another 20 years repaying it.

But favour is somebody coming to you and saying, “Take the key. The house is yours.”

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In one moment, favour can save you years of waiting and labour. Favour saves time. Favour pushes you ahead. This is why the Bible says that favour is to be chosen over silver and gold (Proverbs 22:1). If you enter a room and see a heap of gold, a heap of silver, and one moment of favour with the king, choose favour.

In this powerful message, Pastor Kim declares seven statements of favour that will transform your life. Each of these declarations are grounded in Scripture. Watch the full video and receive the 7 declarations of favour for your life.

We have also created a set of bookmarks featuring all 7 declarations so you can keep them close, pray over them, and speak them regularly.

Download the 7 Declarations of favour bookmarks.

XOXO

Team SoarGirls

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How to Break Free From Unhealthy Soul Ties?

How to Break Free From Unhealthy Soul Ties?

by | Jun 6, 2026 | Christian Walk, Healing & Freedom

In the last two blogs, we saw how to identify unhealthy soul ties and how we may unknowingly open doors to them. Today, we’ll look at how you can break-free from wrong soul ties.

“But He said to me, ‘My grace is sufficient for you, for My power is made perfect in weakness.’”
(2 Cor 12:9)

Your breakthrough will come when you are desperate for it. God wants to open beautiful doors in your life, but He can’t as long as you are clinging tight to that closed door. So, start by slamming the door hard to that relationship.

By faith, break the soul tie verbally using your authority in Jesus.

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You can say:

“I now break and sever any ungodly soul ties formed between myself and _________ as a result of ______________ in Jesus’ name.”

Inform the other person about your decision to part. Apologize and forgive if you have to.

You will literally have to wean yourself from that person in every possible way. That means cut off your phone calls, messages, social media, and clear your devices of your past communication and pictures.

Don’t agree to “just being friends.”

Don’t hang out in places where you went together.

Don’t be caught in a situation where you are alone with the person.

The more you deny yourself of the relationship, the less you begin to desire it.

Prayerfully let go, even if the other person throws an emotional fit and says words like “I will die without you”, or “You are made only for me.”

Also, if you have said these words or made some rash vows and commitments, renounce those and ask forgiveness from God. The Bible rightly says that we can be “snared” by the words of our mouth. (Prov 6:2)

When you first deny yourself of a wrong soul tie, you may sense all hell breaking loose to get you back together. You will be reminded of all the good times together and how impossible it is to turn back. But that’s the lie of the enemy, who is working overtime to destroy your destiny. But praise God, His grace is sufficient for you to overcome.

Meanwhile, start spending more time with Jesus. You do that by meditating on His Word, worshiping Him, talking to the Holy Spirit, and staying in the company of godly friends.

Don’t feel ashamed to take help from a God-fearing and mature person in the Lord, of the same sex. Humble yourself and be willing to obey as you are guided in the ways of the Lord. As God fills you with His love, the grip of the soul tie will further loosen over your life.

Things may not change overnight, but thank God, the process has begun.

We have heard so many success stories of girls like you who have not only been set free, but God has even wiped out their past memories completely.

If God can do it for them, He can for sure do it for you.

If this series blessed you, do check out our ebook Girls, Here’s What You Never Knew. This book exposes the hidden traps of the enemy and fireproofs you from relationship pitfalls. 

XOXO

Kim



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How You Can Open Doors to Unhealthy Soul Ties

How You Can Open Doors to Unhealthy Soul Ties

by | May 26, 2026 | Christian Walk, Healing & Freedom

“Above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it.” Proverbs 4:23

Last week we saw how to identify unhealthy soul ties. This week we’ll look at how unhealthy soul ties are formed. (If you missed the previous post, you can read it here on how to identify unhealthy soul ties in your life)

The most common way you can open up doors to soul ties is through emotional connections. It all starts harmless, but if you don’t guard your heart, it can soon become a snare for you.

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Girls, for this reason, you should avoid sharing your emotional touch points, weaknesses or past hurts to someone from the opposite sex. If you need help, first run to God and ask Him to lead you to a mature person in the Lord and of the same sex, who can help you overcome.

Similarly, if the opposite person is trying to open up his deep hurts to you, don’t entertain him, instead direct him to a mature mentor in the Lord.

Girls, beware just because a man pursues you and doesn’t give up that doesn’t necessarily mean he is from God. The reason behind his pursuit could be lust, or a soul tie in the form of an idol or loneliness. The Holy Spirit is our perfect example of a gentle man. He never forces His way to get to us.

Also remember a girl and a boy cannot be ‘best friends’ without ending up in a deeper relationship! The Bible says: So, if you think you are standing firm, be careful that you don’t fall! (1 Cor 10:12) So, guard your heart.

Unhealthy soul ties also take root through abusive relationships, sex before marriage, live-in relationships, adultery etc. These are absolutely demonic with devastating physical and emotional consequences.

You see when we give ourselves to someone fully before we are married, it creates the opportunity for deep scars and hurts. Two people may decide to get intimate ‘just for the fun of it,’ yet something is occurring on another level that they may be oblivious to.

Conversely, soul ties often lead to body ties resulting in physical relationships. Some soul ties cause such deep trauma that people lose their sense of reasoning and get into depression or become suicidal. 

Girls, if you are finding yourself in such a relationship, break it before it breaks you. 

In the next part, we’ll look at how to break free from unhealthy soul ties and walk out of such relationship bondages. Or you can also download our full devotional on how to break free from unhealthy soul ties. 

XOXO

Kim

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