10 Biblical Filters for Your Man

10 Biblical Filters for Your Man

by | Nov 10, 2026 | Christian Walk, Dating & Relationships

I love the story of a girl who listed the qualities she wanted in her man. Every night, she laid hands on that list and prayed, not for God to bring that man, but for her to become the woman who could behold such a man. As she trustfully waited, God gave her much more than she asked for!

Here are 10 guidelines to prayerfully consider:

Filters for your man

1. Does he have purpose and vision?

As a wife, you are called to support the vision your husband carries (Gen 2:18). He must seek God for a vision before seeking you!

2. Does he fear the Lord?

Does he love what God loves and hate what He hates? Look for character and fruit above gifts (Pro 16:6).

3. Is he self-seeking?

Love is not self-seeking (1 Cor 13:5). A self-obsessed man may only use you.

4. Does he exercise self-control?

Physical intimacy before time and uncontrolled anger are warning alarms (Pro 25:28; 22:24–25).

5. Is he double-minded?

A double-minded man is unstable (Jam 1:8). Uncertainty about marriage, repeated relationships or constant job changes may signal instability.

6. Can he provide for his family?

Providing for one’s household is a biblical responsibility (1 Tim 5:8).

7. Does he honour his parents and spiritual authorities?

Honour and accountability reveal much. A man who genuinely loves you will boldly approach your parents, not seek shortcuts (Eph 6:2–3).

8. Does he tithe?

Giving exposes who rules his heart. Tithing is the bare minimum. If he is stingy with God, will he be generous with you?

9. Is he faithful in small things?

Small lies become bigger lies. Faithfulness in little things matters (Luke 16:10).

10. Has he got his first button right?

Pray for a man who loves Jesus, not ministry, more than you. He may not be perfect, but because his motive is to please Jesus, he will be open to change.

Of course, no man is perfect, just as you aren’t. We are all becoming more Christ-like. And as you are waiting on God for a godly man, make sure you are prepared to behold such a man!

XOXO

Kim 

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You Are Worth Waiting For

You Are Worth Waiting For

by | Oct 31, 2026 | Christian Walk, Dating & Relationships

Before you start reading this, can you take a moment and look at yourself? 

Many of us see ourselves based on what our family, friends or people around us have said about us at some point in life. 

Maybe you were told that your complexion was not so fair. And for years you have not dared to step out of your house without makeup. ‘Dark’ became your identity.

Fear is a liar

Or maybe a friend jokingly said that your face cut was odd, and from that moment you went into a shell, losing your confidence and hiding behind your oversized spectacles. ‘Inferior’ became your identity. 

Maybe someone made fun of your pronunciation and the once bubbly girl now has become timid and an introvert, finding everyone else better than her. ‘Shy’ became your identity. 

You made a terrible mistake in life and every day you are haunted by condemning thoughts. ‘Failure’ became your identity. 

Hold on! 

What if I told you that’s NOT who you are? That’s NOT your identity. You’ve simply been looking at the wrong mirror!

Now close your eyes and ‘look’ at yourself again. But this time, I want to remind you how God sees you.

You are beautiful, just the way He created you! (Psalm 139:14). No filters. No effects. Every mole, spot or kink on you is precious!

You are unique, valued and accepted by Him! (Isaiah 43:4). That means you don’t have to run in popularity races or strive for a man’s acceptance.

You are loved unconditionally! (Romans 8:38–39). There is nothing you have done or could ever do that would make God stop loving you.

And girl, you are worth waiting for! You are worthy of being pursued and honoured for more than just your physical attributes.

Now that is your unchangeable identity, irrespective of your past or what people have said about you.

This isn’t to motivate you. These are unshakeable truths from God’s Word that He wants you to know!

For too long, you have been looking at yourself through the eyes of others. But your real worth is found when you begin to see yourself through God’s eyes.

Start seeing yourself as He sees you, and His Word is your reference point.

We talk more about this and how to protect yourself from relationship pitfalls in our best-selling book, Girls, Here’s What You Never Knew. This book is worth the buy!

XOXO

Kim Dsouza



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Worried About Your Future? Here’s How to Overcome (Part 2)

Worried About Your Future? Here’s How to Overcome (Part 2)

by | Oct 18, 2026 | Christian Walk

In our previous blog, we saw how focusing on our natural circumstances can make us fear our future and speak that language of fear. 

(If you missed it you can read it here.)

Today, let’s look at another trap the enemy uses to keep us bound in the fear of the future. 

Isaiah 43:19 says, “See, I am doing a new thing! Now it springs up; do you not perceive it?”

God wants to do something new in your life and God wants you to see it. But in order for you to see God’s plan for your future, there is a prerequisite that God gives you in the verse right above this.

“Forget the former things; do not dwell on the past.” Isaiah 43:18

Fear is a liar

The reason why we are not able to see what God is doing is because our eyes are so focused on what has happened in the past. And for you to see what God wants to do in your life He is telling you to forget the former things. That’s a choice that you need to make. 

Forget those wrong words that were spoken over you. Forget those hurts and trauma. Forget that pulling down of your soul that happened. Forget it because God wants to do something new in your life. 

The reason why you are scared and worried about your future is because your reference point is your past. So every time God wants to take you ahead, you are looking at your past failures. God is saying forget it. 

How long will you hold on to your past? Choose today, that if you are going back to your past, it will only be to pick up your testimonies of God’s goodness and faithfulness. 

Let God’s goodness and His Word be your reference point and you will see that the fear of the future will have no more power over you. 

XOXO
Kim Dsouza

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Worried About Your Future? Here’s How to Overcome (Part 1)

Worried About Your Future? Here’s How to Overcome (Part 1)

by | Oct 11, 2026 | Christian Walk

Ever caught yourself saying or thinking things like, “I don’t know what is going to happen to my future,” “What will happen to my job?” “What will happen to my marriage?”.

That is the language of fear, and fear is a liar.

The truth is, your future is safe, and you will not fail. We serve a God of the future, and He has already been in your future. He holds your future.

Fear is a liar

God confirms this multiple times in His Word:

“For I know the thoughts that I think toward you, says the Lord, thoughts of peace and not of evil, to give you a future and a hope.”
(Jeremiah 29:11)

“Being confident of this very thing, that He who has begun a good work in you will complete it until the day of Jesus Christ.”
(Philippians 1:6)

There is provision in your future because the Word of God says that those who seek the Lord shall lack no good thing. (Psalm 34:10)

The next time fear speaks, you need to talk back to that fear and say, “I will never again fear my future. Because as long as God is in my future, I shall stand.”

You may be focused on your storm right now, but I want you to see the glorious future God has for you.

Say this out loud:

There is joy in my future.

I will succeed in my workplace. 

I will have a beautiful marriage.

God will make a way in the wilderness and rivers in the desert for me.

There is no temptation or test that can come to pull me down because Jesus was tempted in every way, yet He did not fail.

In the Bible, we see how Martha was worried and saw so many things that were not right. Mary was also seeing things, but from a better location. And that location was at the feet of Jesus.

What are you seeing, and through whose eyes are you seeing it?

The more time you spend with the Word of God, the less you will see things based on your natural circumstances. You will begin to see through the eyes of Jesus. This is the better part Mary chose, and when you choose this better part, it will not be taken from you.

XOXO
Kim Dsouza

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How to Connect God’s Power to Your Dead Situation?

How to Connect God’s Power to Your Dead Situation?

by | Sep 29, 2026 | Christian Walk, Healing & Freedom

Romans 8:11 says: “But if the Spirit of Him who raised Jesus from the dead dwells in you, He who raised Christ from the dead will also give life to your mortal bodies through His Spirit who dwells in you.”

Do you understand the power behind this verse? The same power that raised Jesus Christ from the dead is inside of you. That means whatever dead situation you are facing, whether in your body, marriage, career, or finances, the power inside you has the capability to bring life to it.

But here’s the question: How does that power inside you reach your dead situation?

God's Power

Genesis 1 says that in the beginning, the Earth was void and formless, and the Holy Spirit was hovering over the waters. But do you know that creation happened only when God spoke?

“Let there be light.” – The Word was released, the Holy Spirit caught it, and creation happened.

And, it is the same principle today.

Your words become the bridge through which the Spirit of God rushes into that dead situation. That is why the Bible says, “Death and life are in the power of the tongue.” (Proverbs 18:21)

If you see a dead end in your job, speak life. If there is a negative report concerning your body, speak the Word of God over it. Don’t keep repeating what the doctor, bank, employer, or situation is saying.

When the angel told Zechariah that Elizabeth would have a son, the Word had already come. But instead of releasing a matching word of faith, Zechariah questioned it and was made mute until the promise was fulfilled. (Read Luke 1)

Your words matter!

God has already placed His Spirit inside you. You are one with Him. What more can God do?

Now look at every dead situation in your life. Maybe you feel stuck, confused, disappointed, or as though nothing is moving. Don’t accept that as your final portion.

The same power that raised Jesus from the dead is inside you. All you need to do is release it through your words.

Shalom.

Kim Dsouza

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Made a Mistake? This Changes Everything!

Made a Mistake? This Changes Everything!

by | Sep 18, 2026 | Christian Walk, Healing & Freedom

In Genesis 20:11, Abraham says, “Because I thought, surely the fear of God is not in this place; and they will kill me on account of my wife.”

Abraham looked around and saw a place where there was no fear of God. There was wickedness around him, people living according to what pleased them, with no regard for God. Out of that fear, Abraham made a mistake; he lied that Sarah was his sister, which caused Abimelek to take her away. (Gen 20:2)

investment

Yet, even in a place where there was no fear of God, and even when Abraham messed up, one thing did not change: he was still an investment of God, and God watches over His investment. God Himself encountered Abimelek and ensured Sarah was returned unharmed and with gifts!

That should give you courage and confidence.

You may be in a workplace, city, locality, or situation where there is no fear of God. You may even make mistakes along the way. But none of that changes the fact that you are an investment of God.

God is tracking His investment. His love is tracking you. His beautiful, good thoughts are tracking you.

God is a Good Investor!

Look through the Old Testament. In every generation, God invested in somebody. Abraham. Moses. David. And wherever His investment was, God showed up. He guarded and preserved His investment until all of it eventually produced a return: Jesus.

And look at the goodness of this Investor. When God received the greatest return, Jesus, He did not withhold Him. He reinvested Him.

Why? Because He had you and me in His mind.

God took that one Seed and sowed Him so that He could receive sons and daughters in His likeness.

Now, because we believe in Jesus, we have become a different kind of investment. We are not simply like Abraham, Moses, or David. Jesus Himself is now a part of us.

I am praying that your eyes will open to see the value you have in the eyes of God. You are God’s investment. Jesus is in you. You have held the hand of Jesus. And the direction before you is up, and never down.

XOXO

Kim Dsouza

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