How to Break Free From Unhealthy Soul Ties?

How to Break Free From Unhealthy Soul Ties?

by | Jun 6, 2026 | Christian Walk, Healing & Freedom

In the last two blogs, we saw how to identify unhealthy soul ties and how we may unknowingly open doors to them. Today, we’ll look at how you can break-free from wrong soul ties.

“But He said to me, ‘My grace is sufficient for you, for My power is made perfect in weakness.’”
(2 Cor 12:9)

Your breakthrough will come when you are desperate for it. God wants to open beautiful doors in your life, but He can’t as long as you are clinging tight to that closed door. So, start by slamming the door hard to that relationship.

By faith, break the soul tie verbally using your authority in Jesus.

Soul Ties

You can say:

“I now break and sever any ungodly soul ties formed between myself and _________ as a result of ______________ in Jesus’ name.”

Inform the other person about your decision to part. Apologize and forgive if you have to.

You will literally have to wean yourself from that person in every possible way. That means cut off your phone calls, messages, social media, and clear your devices of your past communication and pictures.

Don’t agree to “just being friends.”

Don’t hang out in places where you went together.

Don’t be caught in a situation where you are alone with the person.

The more you deny yourself of the relationship, the less you begin to desire it.

Prayerfully let go, even if the other person throws an emotional fit and says words like “I will die without you”, or “You are made only for me.”

Also, if you have said these words or made some rash vows and commitments, renounce those and ask forgiveness from God. The Bible rightly says that we can be “snared” by the words of our mouth. (Prov 6:2)

When you first deny yourself of a wrong soul tie, you may sense all hell breaking loose to get you back together. You will be reminded of all the good times together and how impossible it is to turn back. But that’s the lie of the enemy, who is working overtime to destroy your destiny. But praise God, His grace is sufficient for you to overcome.

Meanwhile, start spending more time with Jesus. You do that by meditating on His Word, worshiping Him, talking to the Holy Spirit, and staying in the company of godly friends.

Don’t feel ashamed to take help from a God-fearing and mature person in the Lord, of the same sex. Humble yourself and be willing to obey as you are guided in the ways of the Lord. As God fills you with His love, the grip of the soul tie will further loosen over your life.

Things may not change overnight, but thank God, the process has begun.

We have heard so many success stories of girls like you who have not only been set free, but God has even wiped out their past memories completely.

If God can do it for them, He can for sure do it for you.

If this series blessed you, do check out our ebook Girls, Here’s What You Never Knew. This book exposes the hidden traps of the enemy and fireproofs you from relationship pitfalls. 

XOXO

Kim



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How You Can Open Doors to Unhealthy Soul Ties

How You Can Open Doors to Unhealthy Soul Ties

by | May 26, 2026 | Christian Walk, Healing & Freedom

“Above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it.” Proverbs 4:23

Last week we saw how to identify unhealthy soul ties. This week we’ll look at how unhealthy soul ties are formed. (If you missed the previous post, you can read it here on how to identify unhealthy soul ties in your life)

The most common way you can open up doors to soul ties is through emotional connections. It all starts harmless, but if you don’t guard your heart, it can soon become a snare for you.

Soul Ties

Girls, for this reason, you should avoid sharing your emotional touch points, weaknesses or past hurts to someone from the opposite sex. If you need help, first run to God and ask Him to lead you to a mature person in the Lord and of the same sex, who can help you overcome.

Similarly, if the opposite person is trying to open up his deep hurts to you, don’t entertain him, instead direct him to a mature mentor in the Lord.

Girls, beware just because a man pursues you and doesn’t give up that doesn’t necessarily mean he is from God. The reason behind his pursuit could be lust, or a soul tie in the form of an idol or loneliness. The Holy Spirit is our perfect example of a gentle man. He never forces His way to get to us.

Also remember a girl and a boy cannot be ‘best friends’ without ending up in a deeper relationship! The Bible says: So, if you think you are standing firm, be careful that you don’t fall! (1 Cor 10:12) So, guard your heart.

Unhealthy soul ties also take root through abusive relationships, sex before marriage, live-in relationships, adultery etc. These are absolutely demonic with devastating physical and emotional consequences.

You see when we give ourselves to someone fully before we are married, it creates the opportunity for deep scars and hurts. Two people may decide to get intimate ‘just for the fun of it,’ yet something is occurring on another level that they may be oblivious to.

Conversely, soul ties often lead to body ties resulting in physical relationships. Some soul ties cause such deep trauma that people lose their sense of reasoning and get into depression or become suicidal. 

Girls, if you are finding yourself in such a relationship, break it before it breaks you. 

In the next part, we’ll look at how to break free from unhealthy soul ties and walk out of such relationship bondages. Or you can also download our full devotional on how to break free from unhealthy soul ties. 

XOXO

Kim

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When The Problem Looks Bigger Than You

When The Problem Looks Bigger Than You

by | Apr 15, 2026 | Christian Walk, Healing & Freedom

Sometimes in life you may face situations that look like a mountain before you; it looks beyond you, and it looks like it has come over to take your space and freedom. But here’s the greater truth: Your God is too good and He loves you unconditionally. He is for you and He is with you. So you can look at that mountain and say to it: “This is too small for my big God.”

Instead of speaking out loud your fears and worries, look at your problem and say, “This is too small a matter for my Big God!”This is not positive talk. It is the Word of God.

2 Kings 3:18 says, “…this is a simple matter in the eyes of God.”

Future

At that time, the kingdom of Israel was divided into two parts: Israel in the north and Judah in the south. Jehoram ruled Israel and he was a wicked king. Jehoshaphat ruled Judah and he was a good king.

Then the king of Moab picked a fight with Jehoram. So Jehoram and Jehoshaphat came together to fight Moab. They passed through Edom, a desert land, and joined forces with the king of Edom. Now three kings were going to battle, but after seven days, they had no water for the army or for the animals. They were devastated and felt it was over.

But they went to Elisha the prophet, and he gave them specific instructions from God: And he said, “Thus says the Lord: ‘Make this valley full of ditches.’ For thus says the Lord: ‘You shall not see wind, nor shall you see rain; yet that valley shall be filled with water, so that you, your cattle, and your animals may drink.’ (2 Kings 3:16-17)

Then Elisha says, “And this is a simple matter in the sight of the Lord”. (2 Kings 3:18)

The next morning, at the time of offering, suddenly, water came by the way of Edom, though Edom was a desert, and the land was filled with water. No rain. No wind. Yet the valley overflowed.

Then the Moabites looked at the water, and in the sunlight it appeared like blood. They assumed the kings had fought each other and rushed in for plunder, but Israel was ready and defeated them.

So whatever situation you are going through, can you look at it and say, “It is too small for my big God”? It is a simple matter in the eyes of God. When the enemy looks at you, he sees the Blood of Jesus. That is how protected and loved you are. You may not see wind. You may not see rain. And yet, you shall see the land filled with water.

Shalom.

Author Kim Dsouza

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Partial Freedom Is a Trap, And This Is Why..

Partial Freedom Is a Trap, And This Is Why..

by | Mar 22, 2026 | Christian Walk, Healing & Freedom

Do you know that God wants you to have full freedom? In no area should you be limited. I’m not saying we won’t face challenges or fears. But no challenge and no fear in any area should be able to limit you. God wants you to function as a free spirit and in abundance, in every area of your life.

When Moses asked Pharaoh to let God’s people go, Pharaoh said, “I will let you go to sacrifice to the Lord your God in the wilderness; only you must not go very far away. Plead for me.” (Exodus 8:28)
But God did not agree and Pharaoh’s heart was further hardened. God desired space for His children.

Partial Freedom

Pharaoh tried again: “No! Go, the men among you, and serve the Lord, for that is what you are asking.” And they were driven out from Pharaoh’s presence.” (Exodus 10:11) The enemy will be ok with you having freedom in some areas, but he wants you bound in other areas.

He will say you can be free and have a great life but when it comes to your family, I want them to be bound. But partial freedom is not God’s style.
Then Pharaoh said, “Go, serve the LORD; your little ones also may go with you; only let your flocks and your herds remain behind.” (Exodus 10:24) Now he’s saying you can go with your family, but leave your cattle. The enemy will tell you it’s okay that you and your family are saved, but your finances must be bound.But God is not ok with that either, and Pharaoh’s heart was further hardened. That’s why Moses and Aaron said, “No, we are taking everything that we have.”

If this was not enough God made sure that the Israelites plundered the Egyptians. He made sure that He made the Egyptians pay.“but each woman shall ask of her neighbor, and any woman who lives in her house, for silver and gold jewelry, and for clothing. You shall put them on your sons and on your daughters. So you shall plunder the Egyptians.” (Exodus 3:22)

This is how God wants you to function. This is the kind of dominion that God wants you to have.
Not only are you completely free in every aspect of your life, but you make the enemy pay for every damage he caused you.He is called the God of Rehoboth. He is the God who makes space, and removes every constraint from your life.

What constraint are you facing today? What limitation has bound you?

Your Father is a good Father. 1 Timothy 6:17 says that He “gives us richly all things to enjoy”.
Know that God wants to bless you so that you may enjoy life. Only make sure that our heart is fully occupied by God.

XOXO
Author Kim Dsouza

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Bitterness A Barrier To Your Breakthrough

Bitterness A Barrier To Your Breakthrough

by | Mar 21, 2026 | Christian Walk, Healing & Freedom

You need to speak over yourself that, “I will not allow hopeless thoughts in my mind”. When you get these thoughts where, you know there’s no hope, you need to open your mouth and say, “I will not, you are not allowed, no entry, excuse me hopeless thoughts, no entry. Don’t allow bitterness in your heart. You may have gone through certain situations that may have caused bitterness to come to you. But this is exactly what the enemy wants, enemy wants you to get bitter. Because he knows that if he can interfere through bitterness, if he can interfere in your thoughts you have lost the battle.It’s amazing that, when you are bitter against somebody, your every thought becomes bitter, you are upset with somebody even if the person does something. You are saying, “He has done this, could have done this, my husband could have done this, my wife could have done this”. There’s like a blanket of bitterness that comes and that is a barrier you know.
Bitterness

You need to get rid of that bitterness, you need to get rid of that offense because only once that is gone, God can interfere in your life. He can allow the superior Kingdom to interfere in your life.
I give an example, you see Mary in the Old Testament was about to get married to Joseph. Everything was good between these two people, they liked each other, they loved each other, until Mary was pregnant with Jesus. When Joseph came to know about it, you imagine what he must have felt, he must have gone so bitter. Because he is all excited to enter into this Covenant of marriage, all preparations are done, he knows that girl is a good girl and suddenly it’s the worst.

If you’re throwing a stone at somebody this is like a really sharp stone. Must have hit his heart and wounded him and he could have done whatever was in his power. He could have put Mary down in front of the entire Society, he could have really caused a lot of damage to Mary’s reputation, but what did he do?

Matthew 1:9 Mary was pledged in marriage to Joseph, but before they came together she was found to be with child through the Holy Spirit. Because Joseph her husband was faithful to the law and yet did not want to expose her to Public Disgrace he had in his mind to divorce her quietly. So what were his thoughts? his thoughts were not of revenge, his thoughts were not to disgrace Mary, but he was thinking, how can I? what has happened to me is Injustice, it’s not right, but he was not crying over it. He was not bitter over it. In his mind what were his thoughts?

He was thinking, what has happened has happened, but this guy was faithful to the law. He loved the word, in other words, loved the word and he didn’t want to expose Mary. although he had every reason, “I’ll not do it”, those were thoughts of God, this is how God will think, and verse 20 it says, But while he thought about these things behold an angel of the Lord appeared to him in a dream. Did you see that connection? his thoughts became a portal because he was thinking the thoughts of God.

And he was thinking biblically, he was not offended, he was not bitter. Because as he was thinking about these things, the superior Kingdom ushered at that moment in his life. At that moment an angel appeared. So what is God saying? You may have a reason to hold bitterness in your heart , but God is saying, “Can you still give that bitterness, that offence to me? and not allow it to contaminate your heart and not allow that to interfere with your thoughts. When you do that, I will back you up. ”Isn’t it interesting? After this, dreams after dreams, God began to speak to Joseph. Go to Egypt, go here, go there, God was comfortable with Joseph.

Is the presence of God comfortable with your thinking or are you all the time crying for your life? “If only I had this, if only I married this one, if only I ventured into this career, if only I had so much money, if only I had so much influence, if only I had so many people following me”.

How will that Superior kingdom come close to you? It has to get attracted to your thinking so guard your thoughts because this is exactly what the enemy wants, he wants your thinking to get contaminated.

Shalom.
Author Kim D’souza

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This is the Reason Why You Are Failing…

This is the Reason Why You Are Failing…

by | Feb 7, 2026 | Christian Walk, Healing & Freedom

King Saul was anointed to become the king of Israel. In 1 Samuel 9:20, Samuel says to Saul, “And on whom is all the desire of Israel? Is it not on you and on all your father’s house?”.

Saul was the first king of Israel but he failed miserably, because the picture in his heart was of a loser. So even though his title changed, and he became king, he could not succeed in life because his picture inside was that of a failure.

It doesn’t matter how much you have studied, it is not your knowledge, but the picture that you are carrying in your heart about yourself that’s going to drive you.

Let Go

As a child of God, you have an edge over others in your generation.

God has filled you with His Holy Spirit.

You have the mind of Christ; you have His thoughts.

But, if you have the wrong picture of yourself in your heart, it doesn’t matter what skills you have.

Because, that’s how the Kingdom of God functions: as you are thinking in your heart so will you be. (Proverbs 23:7)
Even if you have struggled in your studies, or messed up in your school or college, as soon as you become a child of God, when you have Jesus in your heart, your picture inside has to change.

Because all the pictures from your past will come and tell you, “Hey! this is who you are.”

But you need to look into the mirror of the Word of God, and see yourself the way God sees you.
It doesn’t matter how miserably you failed in the past, it doesn’t matter whether your bank account has got finances or not, if you see yourself as a king, a king shall you be.

If you see yourself as a success, a success shall you be. If you see yourself as the CEO of a company, a CEO shall you be. If you see yourself as a revivalist, a revivalist is what you are going to be.

And, how do you change the picture on the inside? By renewing your mind with God’s Word. You need to keep walking with God and hearing Him. You cannot survive on a one-time encounter with God.

In 2026 make sure that you carry the right picture inside of you, that matches how God sees you and what He says in His Word.

Shalom.
Author Kim D’souza

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