Is Sex Before Marriage Really Okay? What Nobody Tells You…

A: Is it ok to sleep with the man I’m dating?

S: No

A: But we’re going to get married. We’ve been together for a long time and even live together. Isn’t he almost like my husband?

S: Still no.

This is a conversation we had with a young girl, about her relationship and whether sex before marriage is okay.

We live in a world where what feels right to people is often not right in God’s eyes. Today, society says it’s “okay” to sin. No one seems to care or notice, but sin still separates us from God. It hardens our hearts and creates distance between us and Him.

What Did Jesus Say?

When Jesus met the Samaritan woman at the well, He asked her to bring her husband. She replied, “I have no husband.” Jesus affirmed her honesty, saying: “You are right when you say you have no husband. The fact is, you have had five husbands, and the man you now have is not your husband.” (John 4:18)

This shows us that simply living with someone, dating for years, or acting like you’re married does not make that person your husband. Marriage requires a covenant, a commitment before God and witnesses, sealed with vows.

Sex outside of that covenant is sin.

If You’ve Already Made Mistakes

Maybe you’ve already crossed that line. The good news? You still have a chance to make things right before God. You can repent, ask for forgiveness, and start fresh.

If you desire God’s blessing on your marriage, it begins with honoring Him now. Marriage is a beautiful gift from God, and it is worth waiting for. You are so precious, worth being cherished and waited for, no matter what your past looks like.

Even King Ahab, one of the most wicked kings in the Bible, found God’s attention when he repented (1 Kings 21:27-29). Repentance isn’t just for “church people” or “holy people”, it’s for all of us. God’s grace is never a license to keep sinning. Grace is the power to overcome sin and live a new life in Christ.

It’s never too late to start over with God again. 

XOXO,

Soar Girls Team