3 Lies Single Girls Believe

3 Lies Single Girls Believe

Single girls, you are precious! God is at work for you and in you, to fulfill your purpose. Here are 3 lies that single girls tend to believe. We believe this post will set you free as you read them. 


Lie #1 Single Girls Believe: If I am single, there is a problem

Well girls, if you think singleness is a problem, you are mistaken. And further, if you think marriage or getting into relationships is the solution, you are badly mistaken!  Many girls live like second-class citizens because they don’t have a boyfriend by their side.

And they get into relationships or marriage because they are lonely (not because they are single).

Mind you, loneliness is not the same as singleness and if loneliness is your motivation to get into a relationship, STOP, because it will not solve your problem. In fact, you can be surrounded with people all the time and you can still feel lonely.

You got to deal with the root!

When God made Adam, he lived in fellowship with God, God saw all that he had made and it was very good – nothing lacking, nothing missing (Gen 1:31). Adam was single, but he wasn’t lonely, miserable or desperate for a partner. He had the creator of the universe for company!

And, at the right time, it was God who decided to make a helper suitable for Adam. That’s how God does it – Births things out of fullness. The devil on the other hand – pushes you to make decisions out of lack, anxiety or fear.

Single or married, sixteen or sixty, fullness of joy and fellowship is only found in God’s presence (Psalm 16:11), and until you relate properly to God, you won’t be able to relate properly to anyone else.

So be thankful and celebrate your singlehood. There are so many things you can learn, unlearn and discover about yourself during this time. Most of all you can seek to prioritize your relationship with God above everything else and allow Him to prepare you.

Let’s see a few other lies single girls believe. Are you ready?

Lie #2 Single Girls Believe: My man will complete me

Men and women are not designed to complete each other, rather complement each other. If you are believing for someone else to ‘complete’ you, your eyes will always be on that person to perfectly meet all your needs and that’s how heart breaks happen, because that is something that only God can do.

Marriage is not about two incomplete people coming together. But for a child of God, it is the coming together of two “new creations”. 2 Corinthians 5:17 says, “Anyone who belongs to Christ has become a new person. The old life is gone; a new life has begun!”

Out of this internal change, our external actions follow! Listen girls, marriage is about sacrifice more than entitlement; giving more than getting, serving more than being served and you will be able to do that only when you are gleaning your strength from God and not each other.

Lie #3 Single Girls Believe: Marriage is my calling

No, it is not! But marriage is designed to push you closer to your goal, when you do it God’s way. Some girls are so obsessed about their marriage that they lose focus of their purpose, causing great damage to themselves and others.

Think about it. Go to school, then college. Do further studies. Find a great job. Get a spouse, marry and have kids. Is this what life is all about? Or is there a bigger picture to it?

No one knows the purpose of a guitar better than its maker; the purpose of a pot, no one can understand better than the potter. Similarly, you are God’s creation and the purpose of your life comes from Him, and the earlier you discover it, the larger impact your life can have.

Your calling is bigger than your career, job or relationships. The stakes are much higher. It is something that God ordained for you even before you are born.



The above post is an excerpt from our Book – Girls, Here’s What You Never Knew… Mail us at [email protected] to get a copy of this ebook. Also don’t forget to participate in the BOYZONE quiz and find out how easy or hard it is for you to make opposite sex relationship mistakes. Go here for the quiz: pursuehim.net/quiz/.

Does God Care For My Struggles?

Does God Care For My Struggles?

God reminded me of a vision I saw long back that encourages me till date, and I believe you need to hear this today. In this vision I saw a man who was walking behind Jesus but was struggling along the way. I was disturbed because Jesus was walking fast and He wasn’t turning behind to look.

Hmm…I guess, more than me writing about it, go ahead, click this link below to head to our Youtube channel and watch this man’s full story (6 min). And hey, don’t forget to subscribe to our YouTube Channel and hit the bell icon to know every time we post a new video.

Happy Soaring
Team Soar Girls

You Are Weird!

You Are Weird!

Do you remember your first day of your college or work? How did it go? How easy or difficult it was for you to connect to new people around you? It’s quite natural to look for “friends” so we can “belong somewhere.” We try to dress like them, talk like them, act like them, share the same interests they share and spend a lot of time with them.

I remember in my college days I would go to the extreme of spending all my time with my friends, so much so that I would not study. I was always trying to be like them so that I might “fit in”.

To be honest, everyone among us looks for acceptance.

And, the biggest lie of the enemy till today is that ‘you are not accepted’.


The enemy will make you believe that you are not accepted in your family, friend circle, office, community, also last to last even church! “See, you are weird” “You are the black sheep of the family” “How are you not like your friends?” are some of the words that you may be hearing.

Looking For Acceptance

In my school there was a girl who was very beautiful and loving. She tried hard to fit in with the girls around her, but somehow was unable to. So, she made friendship with boys because she reasoned that if she didn’t get accepted by the girl gang, the boys were her only company. The girl later ended up dating boys one after the other.
She looked for acceptance in the wrong places and that led to several heart breaks.

The big trap is when we go looking for acceptance from people rather than God. And that’s when people take advantage of you and start manipulating you.

Know Your God. And you’ll know where you belong!

If only we know what God says about us and that we are fully accepted and loved by Him, it will solve all our problems!

In the book ‘Girl’s Here’s What You Never Knew…‘ we share how when a daughter of God does not know her identity, she is like an orphan who doesn’t know that her Father is a King, and that she has a royal bloodline. So, she lives her life with a poor-old-me mentality, running everywhere for acceptance, without knowing the riches of her inheritance.

(Hey, btw in afore mentioned book ‘Girl’s Here’s What You Never Knew…‘ we talk in depth about issues girls like you face. Have you read a copy? If not, reply to his mail, and we will be happy to email you a free ecopy).

Beloved, God is our Father. And He is the King of kings and Lord of lords. Because of what Jesus did for us on the cross and took our place now we are accepted in the beloved.

Death ruled like a king because Adam had sinned. But that cannot compare with what Jesus Christ has done. God has treated us with undeserved grace, and he has accepted us because of Jesus. And so we will live and rule like kings (Rom 5:17 CEV)

Wow! You are bought for a price!

You belong to the Lord our God and you are a daughter of the Most High God!

You are a queen and a rightful heir to God’s promises

A queen may not have many friends but she has the king’s heart! Do you know from the day you have been in the your mother’s womb God already knew you? The Bible says ‘Before I formed you in the womb I knew you, before you were born I set you apart; I appointed you as a prophet to the nations.’ ( Jer 1:5 )

Girls who know they are set apart by the Lord are those who cannot be messed with!

When you know who you are and whose you are, you won’t feel the need to be accepted by people.
Today as you go about your day know that the Lord is with you and He is your King who accepts you just the way you are. He will never leave you nor forsake you. (Heb 13:5)

Also, about the girl I shared before, her story changed when she met the Lord Jesus and accepted Him as her Saviour. She started walking in the fear of the Lord and focused on pleasing Him in her singlehood. And sure enough, at the right time, God brought her the man he had kept for her and now they are happily engaged to be married.


Alisha Jose

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A Rat, and a Reminder from God

A Rat, and a Reminder from God

One day as I was doing my daily runs in the park, a rat ran across me. It was as big as the size of my feet!

Normally I would have run away in the opposite direction, but the Lord began to reveal something to me. I happened to see that a ray of light falling on the rat was causing a big shadow on the wall behind it. Now the shadow of the rat was so big, almost like the size
of an elephant!


That’s when I heard the Lord say, “This is how the devil works. He is actually the size of a rat, but magnifies your problem or himself as the big shadow you see on the wall. What you see is just a shadow, your actual problem is the size of the rat!”

When our problems become a shadow…

Whatever problem you may be facing – maybe in your school, college, job, marriage, family, that problem may seem to be standing like a giant in your way right now. But when we realise that we are seated in the Lord Jesus at the right hand of the Father, our
perspective changes (Ephesians 2:6). Now the same problem will look small compared to the size of God in us.

Whatever you think is great obstacle or a problem or glittery are just shadows. As David would say, “Even though I walk through the valley of the shadow of death, I fear no evil, for You are with me; Your rod and Your staff, they comfort me” (Psalm 23:4).

Here’s the key…

We got to pursue Jesus long enough till everything else becomes a shadow.

Many people pursue God for blessings. But imagine you are in a relationship and someone pursues you for what you can only give, but not for who you are.


Having Lord Jesus in your life is like having everything! He is all you need! He is your God, your Father, your King, your best Friend, your Savior, your Protector, your shield, your provider, your healer… and I can go on!

May our eyes be opened

Listen girls, people, pastors or leaders cannot pursue God for you. This is where you need to get up and hear God for yourself, open the Bible and know Him more personally.

This is your life’s homework!

You need to see God for who He is really. See Him with eyes not limited to a man, but with eyes that can be only opened by the Holy Spirit. He is the Great I Am. He is the One who went before you and suffered on the cross and is now seated at God’s right hand having all power and authority.

And guess what, He has given that authority to you, His precious daughter!

I am praying for you that your eyes will be so fixed on Jesus that everything else will become a shadow in the light of Him. I am praying that God will give you solutions and promises in His Word for your problem today as you open your Bible. I pray a mighty blessing on you girl! You are born to soar!


Alisha Jose

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A Video Gift for you + FREE Phone Wallpapers

A Video Gift for you + FREE Phone Wallpapers

Hurray!! Your Favorite Community Soar Girls is now on YOUTUBE!!

Have a look at the first video we uploaded especially for you. This 3.5 min video is special because every single line of it we received as an outpour from God during our time of prayer.

Click on the video thumbnail below to see the video. And don’t forget to follow us on YouTube, and hit the bell icon so you wont miss Spirit-Led content like this every time we post.


And 10 of them!

These are beautiful reminders on Father-Daughter theme which will encourage and edify you. We actually got inspired to create them following our Soar Girls Take Off meet that kicked off on Zoom on October 1. To know more about our first meet and the vision of onion that God showed, go here: Soar Girls Take Off Launch & Onion Vision

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Shh…Addicted to Porn? Your 1 Step to Freedom

Shh…Addicted to Porn? Your 1 Step to Freedom

Freedom from porn addiction.

Alright, you know porn is bad.

Watching porn makes you feel dirty and condemned.

I am sure you agree with me that pornography is from the pit of hell. It is filthy, destroys our idea about sex, and corrupts our thinking.

But here is where you are stuck.

It has become an addiction. You have been hiding this from those around you. You have tried many online accountability sites to get rid of this habit, but nothing seems to be working.

There is hope

Let me tell you, this is not by chance that you are reading this. If you are fed up with your pornographic addiction and crying out for freedom, please trust me with this one key.

Only ONE.

Follow this, and I am praying that it will trigger a move that will break the hold of pornography over your life.

The quickest way to your breakthrough from a sin is to EXPOSE it (And yes pornography is a sin!)

Never forget this – What you hide has power over your life.

The devil wants you to conceal your addiction to pornography, and he will bring you reasons likeshame, fear, guilt to keep you from exposing it.

John 3:20 says, Everyone who does evil hates the light, and will not come into the light for fear that their deeds will be exposed. But whoever lives by the truth comes into the light, so that it may be seen plainly that what they have done has been done in the sight of God.

You see, the devil is not interested in just playing hide and seek with you. He has only one agenda and that is to knock you out of God’s plan for your life and to completely destroy you and the lives that are connected to you.

Even as you read this, don’t delay

Take a step of faith and expose your struggle with a same-sex mentor, pastor or someone who is mature in the Lord, who can pray with you and guide you. The Bible says confess your sins to one another and pray for one another, that you may be healed (James 5:16). Make sure this person should be filled with the Holy Spirit and the Word and living a life glorifying Jesus.

Trample that fear and shame and make this conversation face to face. No whatsapp. No SMS. Just speak your heart out. And allow God to do the rest!

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