Single girls, you are precious! God is at work for you and in you, to fulfill your purpose. Here are 3 lies that single girls tend to believe. We believe this post will set you free as you read them.
Lie #1 Single Girls Believe: If I am single, there is a problem
Well girls, if you think singleness is a problem, you are mistaken. And further, if you think marriage or getting into relationships is the solution, you are badly mistaken! Many girls live like second-class citizens because they don’t have a boyfriend by their side.
And they get into relationships or marriage because they are lonely (not because they are single).
Mind you, loneliness is not the same as singleness and if loneliness is your motivation to get into a relationship, STOP, because it will not solve your problem. In fact, you can be surrounded with people all the time and you can still feel lonely.
You got to deal with the root!
When God made Adam, he lived in fellowship with God, God saw all that he had made and it was very good – nothing lacking, nothing missing (Gen 1:31). Adam was single, but he wasn’t lonely, miserable or desperate for a partner. He had the creator of the universe for company!
And, at the right time, it was God who decided to make a helper suitable for Adam. That’s how God does it – Births things out of fullness. The devil on the other hand – pushes you to make decisions out of lack, anxiety or fear.
Single or married, sixteen or sixty, fullness of joy and fellowship is only found in God’s presence (Psalm 16:11), and until you relate properly to God, you won’t be able to relate properly to anyone else.
So be thankful and celebrate your singlehood. There are so many things you can learn, unlearn and discover about yourself during this time. Most of all you can seek to prioritize your relationship with God above everything else and allow Him to prepare you.
Let’s see a few other lies single girls believe. Are you ready?
Lie #2 Single Girls Believe: My man will complete me
Men and women are not designed to complete each other, rather complement each other. If you are believing for someone else to ‘complete’ you, your eyes will always be on that person to perfectly meet all your needs and that’s how heart breaks happen, because that is something that only God can do.
Marriage is not about two incomplete people coming together. But for a child of God, it is the coming together of two “new creations”. 2 Corinthians 5:17 says, “Anyone who belongs to Christ has become a new person. The old life is gone; a new life has begun!”
Out of this internal change, our external actions follow! Listen girls, marriage is about sacrifice more than entitlement; giving more than getting, serving more than being served and you will be able to do that only when you are gleaning your strength from God and not each other.
Lie #3 Single Girls Believe: Marriage is my calling
No, it is not! But marriage is designed to push you closer to your goal, when you do it God’s way. Some girls are so obsessed about their marriage that they lose focus of their purpose, causing great damage to themselves and others.
Think about it. Go to school, then college. Do further studies. Find a great job. Get a spouse, marry and have kids. Is this what life is all about? Or is there a bigger picture to it?
No one knows the purpose of a guitar better than its maker; the purpose of a pot, no one can understand better than the potter. Similarly, you are God’s creation and the purpose of your life comes from Him, and the earlier you discover it, the larger impact your life can have.
Your calling is bigger than your career, job or relationships. The stakes are much higher. It is something that God ordained for you even before you are born.
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