Why Choose Christ-Minded Friends Over Like-Minded Friends?

Why Choose Christ-Minded Friends Over Like-Minded Friends?

by | Jun 16, 2025 | Christian Walk, Dating & Relationships

We prefer surrounding ourselves with people who agree with us and make us comfortable, don’t we? These friends that we choose more often than not, reflect the condition of our heart and more importantly, will influence the person we are going to be tomorrow.

 That’s why more than like-minded friends, we need Christ-minded friends! You need to surround yourself with those who think more like Jesus and less like you.

 The Bible says in Proverbs 13:20, “Whoever walks with the wise becomes wise, but the companion of fools will suffer harm.”

Who is a Christ-Minded friend?

So you may be wondering, what is a Christ-minded friend like? Proverbs 11:30 says, “he who wins souls is wise” – this can only be a hallmark of a Christ-minded friend.

Christ-minded friends are friends who genuinely love the Word and who can correct you in the ways of God. As David says in Psalm 119:63 NLT, “I am a friend to anyone who fears you— anyone who obeys your commandments.”

When David committed adultery with Bathsheba, it was his friend Nathan the prophet who confronted him and that opened David’s eyes to the blunder he had made.

“Iron sharpens iron, and one man sharpens another.” (Proverbs 27:17)

Christ-minded friends are precious because they are not afraid to challenge you to look more like Jesus, speak more like Him, and be more like Him.

The Bible says, An honest answer is the sign of true friendship (Proverbs 24:26).

Another example of godly friendships is Daniel and his three God-fearing friends, Shadrach, Meshach and Abednego. They were brought to Babylon as captives, but in their friendship they stood together against all odds – whether being in danger of annihilation by King Nebuchadnezzar, or whether being thrown in the fire for their faith.

The end result of their lives? God raised them to influential positions in the province of Babylon next only to the king.

Oh the sweet joy of godly friendships where your faith and love for Jesus becomes contagious and together you start influencing the world around you.

 

Choose Friendships That Will Keep You in the Perfect Will of God

 

You see, “Two are better than one, because they have a good return for their labour: if either of them falls down, one can help the other up. But pity anyone who falls and has no one to help them up.” (Ecclesiastes 4:9-10)

There is nothing greater than to be in the center of God’s will for your life – that’s where you will find success and abundance of joy flowing into your career, marriage, family, ministry and everything that is connected to you. Christ-minded friends will drive you into this!

This season let’s evaluate our friendships. Are they pushing us closer to Jesus, or are they drawing us away from Him? Remember, the friends you choose to keep will influence not only your present but also our future. So, choose well!

Want more guidance in the area of friendship? Check out this ebook “5 Lies You Believed About Your Friends”, by Author Kim D’Souza. You can buy it here.

XOXO

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What if I fail? + FREE AUDIOBOOK (worth $3.95)

What if I fail? + FREE AUDIOBOOK (worth $3.95)

by | Apr 22, 2021 | Dating & Relationships, Identity & Calling

Friends that you need in life

Drumroll please!!! We are so happy to release the audio book Girl’s Here’s What You Never Knew…The audio book is out on all major platforms including audiobooks.com and Google Playstore.

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Try Something New … What if I fail?

By Sheryl Gadre

This audio book is very close to my heart, because it is my first project as a narrator!
Let me share with you my story of God’s grace.

Since childhood, I have dreaded to read aloud to a crowd. The handful of times I had tried, I admit the experience was unpleasant. In nervousness, the letters in my book seemed jumbled leaving me struggling and stammering. As though that was not enough, I had started to dislike my voice, as many people had hinted that I was nasal.

Years passed by, still felt the same about reading aloud – never wanted to do it.

At the start of 2020, I remember hearing my spiritual mother encouraging us saying: We should try and do everything we fear we can’t do, and achieve victory in it. Because unless we move beyond our comfort zones, we will never be able to experience the grace of God in those areas.

Try Something New,come out of your fear box,The call

Face your fears and conquer

At the time my spiritual parents Pastors Derrick and Kim encouraged me to convert their blog posts into podcasts.

And so, I entered the world of podcasting with zero broadcasting experience, and not to forget my “nasal voice”.

The Bible says in Philippians 4:13, I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me. This verse became my truth while I was learning and preparing for this.

I was determined to overcome this fear by being intentional – reading about podcast hosts, recordings systems, audio editing platforms and voice modulation exercises.

Over the few months while I was doing my best to improve my voice; God was working inside of me, changing my heart. The Lord told me He was ready to use me, if I was available and willing to commit to serve His people.

I realized that God did not need my voice to be perfect, he only needed me to be committed to serve.

And as I started accepting that, my focus moved from me and my fears to serving and being a blessing to many.

Voila! Soon we launched our Pursue Him Audio Podcast last year in July. Click HERE to check out our episodes in case you haven’t already. Our episodes are short (mostly less than 10 minutes) and cover topics related to Christian Walk, Leadership, Marriage, etc.

You will be amazed to know that recently we hit a century, with 100 episodes already published!

Rise up & Do it

Girls, if the Holy Spirit is nudging you to do something, but you are scared because you think you will fail or you will not be good at it. Let me encourage you “Rise up & Do it”. Don’t wait to attain perfection in order to start, but start anyways!

In every step of the way depending on the Holy Spirit, He will take you from one victory to the other. And alongside, continually build your skills, learn, practice and repeat.

I was never interested in technology, could not even imagine “audio editing”. Today, I love editing audio and the creativity you can bring to the table through audio.

Feeling Inspired?

I look forward to seeing you pick a skill and overcome your fears. Mail me back here and I would love to cheer for you.

Till we meet again, remember: You are unstoppable in Christ!

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The One Friend You Cannot Afford to Miss

The One Friend You Cannot Afford to Miss

by | Apr 15, 2021 | Friendships, Leadership

Friends that you need in life

In your friends circle, I am sure you will find different kinds of friends.

There would be a friend who will know all your weaknesses and secrets.

There would be a friend who will have similar hobbies and likes like yours.

Then there are office friends, college friends and school friends.

But there is one kind of friend that you cannot afford to miss. “I got a word for you” friend. Because this kind of friend will come to you at a time when you have a need (and probably nobody knows), and say, ” I got a word for you”.

Cherish this friend!

Because this is a friend who is praying for you, and talking to God about you. She will bring a Word from the Lord for you, which will be able to sustain you in the season you are going through.

In the Old testament we read about Daniel, Shadrach, Meshach, and Abednego, who were always together in standing for the Lord in every challenge that they faced. When the king of Babylon had a dream and no one could interpret, he issued a decree to put all the wise men to death. When Daniel comes to know about this, he returns to his house and explains the matter to his friends. He urges them to pray for it and during the night the mystery gets revealed to Daniel in a vision. (Daniel 2:17-19).

After Daniel interprets the dream for the king and he is bestowed with honour and royal goodies, he gives the king a recommendation to make his friends Shadrach, Meshach, and Abednego in charge of all the affairs of the province of Babylon.(Daniel 2:49)

This is such a beautiful example of godly friendships.

A friend who runs behind Jesus

I am not talking about someone who fakes religion, but who genuinely loves Jesus and is walking with Him, like Daniel and his friends.

This friend will encourage you to run behind Jesus. This friend will not put your fire off, but stir you up to walk in God’s ways.

This friend will not be scared to confront you when you are going wrong, like Prophet Nathan who confronted his friend David when David committed adultery and was going in the wrong direction.

Do you have a friend like this? If yes, how about sharing this post to that friend and thanking her. If not, you become that kind of friend for someone, and God will bring one for you 🙂

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Dare to be Different

Dare to be Different

by | Apr 8, 2021 | Christian Walk, Identity & Calling

Dare to be different,Walk in light,Read the Word,Friends of the world.

It was a Wednesday afternoon when I received the Office Party invite.

“Thank you for all the efforts you put in, allow us to celebrate you. Let your hair down and hit the dance floor.

You are invited to a ROCKING PARTY on Friday night… Food and drinks on the house!!!”

Everyone in the team was looking forward to having some “Cool Time” off work at the Disco Lounge. As I expressed my discomfort about the venue my colleague advised I had to learn to be like others, be accepted in the management circle and these occasions could give me a chance to get in their good books. I denying to go to the party could be perceived as haughtiness by the management.

The Spirit within me kept nudging me not to, but I didn’t have a choice. My colleague was right! It was a new team I was leading and we had achieved all targets. I couldn’t possibly miss the celebration, they wanted to facilitate “ME!!” Of course God would understand, it was important for my growth in the company.

But Daniel resolved not to…

That day, during my Bible reading time was led to read the Book of Daniel:

Dan 1:8 But Daniel resolved not to defile himself with the royal food and wine.

Daniel RESOLVED not to DEFILE himself. But, with what was he going to be defiled? Sorry, did I read it right?

It wasn’t the undignified, dishonourable, common things that Daniel decided not to defile himself with… He decided not to defile himself with the ROYAL FOOD AND KING’S WINE!

Was imagining myself at the Buckingham palace, at the Queen’s table. Who in their wildest thoughts would think the food offered in a royal silver plate is spoilt, polluted, unclean or contaminated? I would rather brag about the fact that “I ate from the Queen’s table!”

What on earth was Daniel thinking? Such a thought to even cross one’s mind, in the world would be termed as “arrogant narcissist”…

But that’s exactly what made Daniel different, for he had eyes to see beyond the flesh, ears to hear the supernatural and the wisdom to honour the true throne.

Let your light shine

Many a times we place the kings of this world above God, His Word, and His Spirit.

Ex: Maintain the company of a friend even while the Spirit is nudging not to, be engaged in the wrong conversations with the opposite sex, or even go to the party only to please the boss even while it is a disco lounge.

I was convicted and I decided otherwise about the party. I chose to follow the leading of the Holy Spirit and not grieve Him. And you know what! No one took offence to my decision, in fact I found favour and respect in the eyes of my bosses for having a mind of my own and not being a fake people pleaser.

We need to let our light shine before others. God has chosen you and I out of the world to show His glory in us. We are to remind ourselves that we are in this world, but not of this world. We can’t afford to live like unbelievers, but walk like Jesus our Lord and Saviour. Our holiness comes from Christ.

For in him we live and move and have our being (Acts 17:28)

Set God above all others.

XOXO
Ruta Miller
Team Soar Girls

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