10 Differences between a Girl and a Woman

10 Differences between a Girl and a Woman

by | Oct 23, 2019 | Christian Walk, Dating & Relationships

October 23, 2019

10 Differences between a Girl and a Woman

By Kim D’souza

    By Kim D’souza

Recently I happened to watch a video clip by Pastor Vlad of Hungry Generation Church on the topic 10 differences between a Boy and Man. Here is the link (A must hear for those who consider themselves as men!) I thought it would be nice to have a girl-woman version of it. So here you go:

Here are Ten Differences between a Girl and a Woman

1. A girl craves for attention from people and has an overwhelming concern about her physical appearance. She is under constant pressure to look a certain way and hence makes irrational and extreme choices to keep up to it. A woman knows that she holds the attention of God! She realises that charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting; but what matters the most is the fear of the Lord (Proverbs 31:30). Her mirror is the Word of God, and she is confident in the fact that she is beautiful the way God created her – Real, unfiltered and ‘unphotoshopped’ (Psalm 139:14).

2. A girl dresses up for the approval of others and in the process ends up in a compromising lifestyle. The way she dresses is to attract people to her. A woman on the other hand dresses up for Jesus, she knows she is the daughter of a king. “So shall the king greatly desire thy beauty: for he is thy Lord; and worship thou Him…The king’s daughter is all glorious within: her clothing is of wrought gold. She shall be brought unto the king in raiment of needlework…” -Psalm 45:13-14 (KJV). Her clothes carry the finesse of the royalty that runs in her blood – and that attracts the people not to her, but to the King! (That also means she is not casual about her clothing).

Girl – Woman… Who does God say you are?

3. A girl is frivolous in her attitude, takes life as it comes and is easily swayed by situations and the opinions of people around her. Her life revolves around her friends, date nights, social media followers, likes and comments. Her social accounts follow every Tom, Dick and Harry. A woman knows that she has a powerful assignment from God, and every decision she makes in her life is in consciousness of this fact. She doesn’t accept every friend or follow request she receives! She doesn’t linger with time-wasters, and is very careful who she walks with. You see, a girl lives for the moment while a woman is intentional about leaving a legacy behind!

4. A girl’s attitude and lifestyle give access for boys to make approaches, while a woman clothes herself with dignity (Proverbs 31:25). Her walk and her talk are filled with grace, and yet others know where to draw the line. A girl always blames others, while a woman knows that her respect is in her hands!

5. A girl is reckless with her body and uses it provocatively to gain people’s attention, but a woman sets an example before the world in everything – including the way she takes care of her body. She knows that her body is the temple of the Holy Spirit and she leans on God’s wisdom (James 1:5) to steward it. She adapts healthy eating habits, maintains personal hygiene and always smells good!

6. A girl is quick to get into relationships and easily pulls her walls down. She struggles to say no because she doesn’t want to break the heart of the opposite person. A woman knows that she is worth far more than rubies (Proverbs 31:10). She is bold enough to say ‘No’ and preserves her body for the union of marriage. Not breaking God’s heart is more important to her than anybody else’s!

7. A girl often compares herself with others and in the process, she ends up harboring jealousy, pride, offence or low esteem. A woman is secure in the love of God and is thankful to God in everything (1 Thessalonians 5:18). She celebrates when others succeed and lifts others up when they fail.

8. A girl is driven by her temporary craving. She thinks that she is the center point of the entire universe, and lavishly spends on herself and her never-ending shopping list! A woman knows that it is more blessed to give than to receive (Acts 20:35). At the same time, she is a good steward of the money and knows how to plan for her future and her family.

9. A girl is led by her emotions and mood swings. She is very sensitive to what people say and makes her tears a crutch. A woman learns to become sensitive to the Holy Spirit more than people around her. She knows that her tears are precious and makes them her strength by shedding them at the feet of Jesus.

10. A girl uses her tongue to spark fire and cause great damage to herself and others. A woman knows that in quietness and trust is her strength (Isaiah 30:15). Many a time she wins her battles with her conduct, and without words!

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Are You Still Worrying?

Are You Still Worrying?

by | Jul 26, 2019 | Christian Walk

July 26, 2019

Are You Still Worrying?

By Derrick D’souza

    By Pastor Derrick D’souza

There are so many profound principles in the Word of God that they are often overlooked because they are really so simple.

Look at what God says in Matthew 6:24, “No one can SERVE two masters. Either you will hate the one and love the other, or you will be devoted to the one and despise the other. You cannot serve both God and money”.

Most people assume that the Scripture is talking about how you need to choose God over money. But the intent here is not to choose God over money but to SERVE God instead of money. That’s a whole different thought process and lifestyle, that comes with that knowledge.

Serve GOD wholeheartedly, always!

Most people I know of in the kingdom of God have chosen Jesus as their Lord and Savior but they have never made a decision to serve Him. I can already hear the church rise up in arms with that statement! But I do go to church, pay my tithes, I don’t tell lies and live a good life, is the answer. What more should I do??

Well let’s read the next verse for the answer, Matthew 6:25, “Therefore I tell you, do not worry about your life, what you will eat or drink; or about your body, what you will wear. Is not life more than food, and the body more than clothes?

Whenever the word “Therefore” is used, you need to understand what it is there for?

So, Jesus is actually saying, if you SERVE me, do not WORRY about life, because I got all of you covered!

Food, clothing, shelter, everything… He then makes two very awesome examples that make me laugh at all the worries.

1. For those who worry about Food – He says, just in case you’re a foodie, check out my birdies in the sky, they neither sow nor reap yet they get fed on time every time and you are more valuable to me than they.

2. For those who worry about clothes & fashion – He says, just in case you were thinking King Solomon clothes would have definitely been a fashion statement at his time. Jesus smiles and says: Solomon’s attire was not even on par to some of the lilies of the field that are dressed by Me. By the way God clothes the lilies of the field, they never labor or spin or dress themselves up. They usually grow up serving the One who created them and He dresses them up along the way.

So, my point is if you are worrying in life about life, there is a 100% chance you are not serving God!

You may be seeking Him for the above but not serving Him with your life. But choosing to serve has always ensured God’s complete provision.

And then there are others who serve God on their terms, i.e. when they want and how they want to.

You may ask why serve? Because serving comes with surrender. When you worry about eating, drinking, housing, clothing, you do so for your own benefit, but when you serve God you are not serving God for your benefit but for the benefit of others and that brings the provision from God.

So, are you still worrying?

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And God saw it!

And God saw it!

by | Jul 16, 2019 | Christian Walk

July 16, 2019

And God saw it!

By Derrick D’souza

    By Pastor Derrick D’souza

Have you ever taken a step back and thought about all the pain, shame and the brokenness that you went through when you were away from the light of God and were believing the lies of the devil?

I want to tell you that God saw all that the enemy was doing to you, even as He was waiting for you to run to Him. All that the devil used – his lies, deceit, wickedness, his thoughts of death and condemnation to crush you, GOD SAW IT!

And here’s the Good news – Because God saw it, this is what HE is going to do, now that you have believed HIS WORD and entrusted your life completely to HIM.

Habakkuk 3:14 – “With his own spear You pierced his head” …

Everything we go through, GOD sees..

Isn’t it a wonder that every time the devil used a scheme to bring destruction to God’s people, God used the very same thing to crush and pierce his own head! There are many examples in the Bible, here are a few :

When Goliath came with a sword to kill David – David cut Goliath’s head with his own sword.

When Haman prepared a gallow to hang Mordecai – God used the same gallow to hang Haman on it.

The devil knocked out God’s first man (ADAM whom God created) and made him sin and thought he had won the battle. But God smiled and said now I will send another MAN (Jesus – God in flesh) and HE will crush your head and not only that, every other man born-again from this MAN will do the same to you forever and ever and ever and ever and ever AMEN.

What am I saying?

LISTEN, whatever the devil is using or has used against you, to attack you, to bring guilt, shame and sickness, God is going to take that very same thing and pierce his head with it!

What the devil is doing to you today, will be his death stroke tomorrow, IF, you don’t give up on the Lord and stand strong on HIS WORD.

Your life will be a testimony to history that –

What came to cause evil has become a source of freedom to many!

What life was lived in shame will bring inspiration to many!

What life was plagued with scars will bring healing to many!

This is what the Spirit of God is crying out through my heart as I write this post to you. “My dear brother & sister, if you are going through a valley right now, don’t give up, take courage that God has seen all the tears and the mistakes and HE is ready to take the same spear used to inflict you and crush the enemy with it.

Will you believe God today, give HIM your life, your broken relationships, your past and present mistakes and surrender your life to HIM? HE will take it and turn it around and cause all the evil to work out for your good (Romans 8:28).

God is not looking at your “Sin” – HE paid for it with HIS “Blood”, HE is looking to Save YOU and HE is mighty at saving, just read the Bible and you will find out! No one has ever perished on HIS watch!

If you have never committed your life to Jesus completely, then this is your opportunity, don’t delay.

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5 Foundational Keys to a Thriving Marriage

5 Foundational Keys to a Thriving Marriage

by | Mar 14, 2019 | Christian Walk, Marriage & Parenting

March 14, 2019

5 Foundational Keys to a Thriving Marriage

By Derrick D’souza

    By Pastor Derrick D’souza

In this post, I want to share with you five things that God has taught me in my marriage that has helped me understand and enjoy this beautiful covenant of love.

1/ Follow the First-Button Policy

Your personal relationship with Jesus will determine your level of joy, happiness, enjoyment and success of your marriage. Jesus needs to be at the Center of it all. My wife and I follow the First Button Policy – You need to put the first button right on your shirt, in order for the other buttons to fall in place. Similarly for everything else – marriage, finances, career, children etc to fall in place, you got to put Jesus first in your life. The Bible says in Matthew 6:33, Seek ye first the kingdom of God and its righteousness and everything else will be added unto you.

We counsel many believers who are going through problems in their marriage. And all we hear is now no one understands me, no one loves me, cannot connect anymore, always arguing, etc the list goes on and on. At the root of all these issues is a lack of receiving love from God and hence one cannot give each other what one has not first received. 1 John 4:19 says, We love because He first loved us.

2/ Don’t focus on changing each other

You get married because you love one another and not because you want to change one another. You are not called to change one another or make each other your personal project of change. You can only love and love, love and love and only loving will bring the change you desire so greatly. One may ask how much should I love and forgive, the Bible says 70 times 7. It means to accept one another with all your positives and negatives and allow only LOVE to lead the way.

The only person you can change is YOU; the others you are called to love.
Follow God’s example, therefore, as dearly loved children and walk in the way of love, just as Christ loved us and gave himself up for us as a fragrant offering and sacrifice to God (Ephesians 5:1).

Marriage is a covenant, not a contract.

3/ Die to yourself

Marriage is crucifixion, death to self and living for the other. When you have your moments of fights and pride where you cannot agree and you feel like quitting, remember your covenant and the vows you made between God and man. The Bible says in Ephesians 5:28-29,31 He who loves his wife loves himself. After all no one hated his own body but he feeds and cares for it just as Christ does the church. … for this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife and the two will become one flesh.

4/ Don’t interchange love and respect

Husbands are called to love their wives and wives are called to respect their husbands. Never interchange the two. There are many women who are loving their husbands but failing to respect and honor them, and many husbands who are respecting their wives, instead of loving them and laying their life down for them as Christ loves the church.
God designed and fashioned men and women differently and if you meet and fulfill these requirements in your spouse according to the wisdom from God’s Word, you will see your partners bloom and flourish like a tree planted by the river.

5/ Your spouse is a gift from God

James 1:16 says, Do not be deceived my brother, every good and perfect gift comes from your Heavenly Father in whom there is no changing like the shifting of sands.

You must remember and learn this promise by heart. This will come very handy, especially when you end up fighting. To give you an example: I had prayed for a wife for many years and God finally bought my darling wife to me. One day emotions ran high, there was misunderstanding and I threw my hands up in the air and ran out of my house. I began to walk and talk to God and l started doing what my great, great, grandfather Adam did and that was to blame my wife, until God had to remind me that she is His gift to me!

All you couples must know what you have in your hand till death do you apart is God’s gift to you and not your reward for being a good person. So cherish each other!

My closing words for the husbands (or to-be) and wives (or to-be) are:

To Husbands, Proverbs 19:14 KJV – Wealth and inheritance come from parents but a prudent wife is from the Lord. Treasure her and love her only with all your heart.

To Wives, Proverbs 31:30 KJV – Charm is deceitful, and beauty is fleeting: but a woman that loveth JESUS is to be praised.

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Shhh….Secret Sins? Your Quickest Way to Breakthrough

Shhh….Secret Sins? Your Quickest Way to Breakthrough

by | Jan 22, 2019 | Christian Walk, Healing & Freedom

January 22, 2019

Shhh….Secret Sins? Your Quickest Way to Breakthrough

By Kim D’souza

    By Pastor Kim D’souza

Jeremiah, our six year old is a very sweet and helpful boy. He does a commendable job of tidying the house when I ask him to. But sometimes when he is not in a mood to help, he smartly shoves things out of place where my eyes cannot catch. So while the house does look clean, it is only matter of time before I find all things falling out from the hidden corners.

Many of us in our Christian life have a similar attitude. There are so many so called believers in the church who are shouting God’s praises from the outside but are hiding their struggles and temptations. They are broken and condemned from the inside and wondering why God’s plans are not working for them. And its only a matter of time before things start falling apart.

But never forget this – What you hide has power over your life.

The devil wants you to conceal things – whether it is lust, pornography, addictions, fears, depressing thoughts etc, and he will bring you reasons like shame, fear, guilt to keep you from exposing it.

John 3:20 says, Everyone who does evil hates the light, and will not come into the light for fear that their deeds will be exposed. But whoever lives by the truth comes into the light, so that it may be seen plainly that what they have done has been done in the sight of God.

When Adam and Eve sinned, the first thing they did was that they hid themselves from the presence of God. But it was God who came searching for them. Similarly when Cain murdered Abel, it was God who initiated a conversation with him, even as Cain tried to hide the facts and act as if nothing has happened.

Hide nothing from God, HE knows it all.

If you are fed up with the way you are living and want a breakthrough in your life, the quickest way to get it is by exposing your struggles to God.

David wrote in Psalm 32:3-5 “When I kept silent, my bones wasted away through my groaning all day long. For day and night your hand was heavy on me;
 my strength was sapped as in the heat of summer. Then I acknowledged my sin to you and did not cover up my iniquity.
I said, “I will confess my transgressions to the Lord.” 
And you forgave the guilt of my sin.“

David committed the sin of adultery with Bathsheba and schemed the murder of her husband Uriah. And God told him, What you did in secret, you will face the consequences of it in daylight before all Israel (2 Samuel 12:12). But we read in the next verse, David asks for forgiveness and IMMEDIATELY God forgives him!

If you are struggling with ‘secret sins’ and genuinely are hungering for a breakthrough in your life, here is what you can do.

1. Expose your struggles before God. Openly and loudly confess them. You see, the devil is not interested in just playing hide and seek with you. He has only one agenda and that is to knock you out of God’s plan for your life and to completely destroy you and the lives that are connected to you. So run to God, who is merciful, compassionate, slow to anger and abounding in love. And once you bring your weaknesses under the blood of Jesus, it is covered. Don’t entertain any feelings of guilt or condemnation and don’t look at your past.

2. Share your struggles with a same-sex mentor, pastor or someone who is mature in the Lord, who can pray with you and guide you. The Bible says confess your sins to one another and pray for one another, that you may be healed (James 5:16). This person should be filled with the Holy Spirit and the Word and living a life glorifying Jesus. Also, don’t assume that your pastor or prophet should know what you are going through and offer help. People are not God, instead you make time and reach out to them.

3. Hide God’s Word in your heart: If there is one thing God is asking us to hide, it is not our sins, but His Word. David says in Psalms 119: 11, I have hidden you Word in my heart that I might not sin against thee! God’s Word is light. And this Word will keep us away from sin. Pick up Scriptures that deal with your problem and start meditating upon them. Spend time with God’s Word and let it not depart from your mouth.

4. Run away from small temptations that you think cannot trap you. It is these ”small things” that we think we have control over, that can make us fall in the long run. Stay alert, your enemy, the devil is like a roaring lion seeking whom he may devour. And above all guard your heart. Also very important, guard your eyes for the eye is the lamp of the body (Matthew 6:22).

5. Don’t cut away from fellowshipping with the people in your church. This is what the devil will want you to do – to run away from God, from men of God and people in the church. Don’t compare yourself to others and thus feel condemned. None of us is perfect, but God has created us to be fellowship beings. The Bible says, And let us not neglect our meeting together, as some people do, but encourage one another, especially now that the day of his return is drawing near (Hebrews 10:25).

Has God spoken to you? Is there anything hidden in your life that is worrying you? Remember the key to your breakthrough is not in hiding but in exposing it.

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Brokenness without Jesus

Brokenness without Jesus

by | Jul 10, 2018 | Christian Walk, Healing & Freedom

JULY 10, 2018

Brokenness without Jesus

By Kim D’souza

    By Pastor Kim D’souza

We often read and quote about Abraham and Sarah in the Bible, but there’s one more important character in their story whom we miss out. The story of the Egyptian slave Hagar in the Bible is a story of brokenness until she encounters the true and living God, “who sees her”.

As a young girl, one day Hagar finds herself given away as a slave to an Israelite childless couple. To be known as somebody’s slave is heart-breaking – no matter how rich, kind or God fearing your owners are. You have no freedom of action, no right, no will. And that was the beginning of Hagar’s brokenness.

Then one day Sarai, her mistress has an idea. She urges her husband Abram to lie down with Hagar. Suddenly this young beautiful girl finds herself next to a man, probably as old as her father.

And she gets broken further.

Soon the news is out – Hagar is pregnant. At this point I feel Hagar is fighting mixed emotions. She was broken because after all that she went through, she was still unsure of what the future holds for her and the unborn baby in her womb.

And she was in her moment of ‘success’ because she was able to bring forth what Sarai couldn’t after decades.

Genesis 16:4 says When she knew she was pregnant, she began to despise her mistress.

Brokenness – Jesus = Bitterness

Another version says, when Hagar knew she was going to have a baby, she became proud and treated Sarai hatefully.

Here is what I want to draw your attention to.

Hagar was broken, but her brokenness was exclusive of God. You see, when Jesus is not a part of your brokenness, it becomes bitterness. Like it happened with Hagar, she became very bitter in her heart against Sarai and this overflowed in her actions towards her.

Similarly if Jesus is not a part of your success then there is every danger of pride creeping in. Hagar in her pride, reacted as the world would, and eventually she suffered the consequences of her behaviour.

But praise God, in His mercy, He rescued her and gave her a promise that still stands true today.

What does it mean?
No matter what season of life you are going through, invite Jesus into it. Cast your brokenness upon Jesus because He cares for you, like no one else. Share your heart to Him and allow His Word to seep through every crevice of pain and crack within you. And you will find that His grace will be sufficient for you. The Bible says that He is yet to deny a broken and a contrite heart.

Similarly yield your so called success to him. Always walk in humility and thankfulness and God will give you more grace, for He exalts those who are humble.
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