Why God hates Pity, and Why You Should Too

Why God hates Pity, and Why You Should Too

by | Sep 27, 2025 | Christian Walk

One day, in my quiet time with the Lord I heard Him say, “Tell My children that I don’t deal in pity. I am a God of mercy. Pity is for orphans, but mercy is for sons.”

Pity is a result of an emotion, which is there today and gone tomorrow. But His Mercy never ends. They are new every morning. (Lam 3:22-23)

Do you know one of the Hebrew root words for mercy is Rakh-am, which means, mother’s womb. God gives us mercy because we are from His womb.

You are not an orphan that was picked from the streets. You are a son who was once lost, but now is found. And that’s why the angels in heaven celebrate when someone gets born again, because the son who was lost is now found. 

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Sadly most of us like to roll in self-pity. 

We grumble and we complain about the things and situations in our life that we think we don’t deserve. And at other times we look at somebody else’s life and complain that they have what we deserve.

If only I was born in a rich family. 

If only I had a platform. 

If only I was pretty like her.

And we walk around carrying that victim mentality, trying to win sympathy from others. 

Now that’s pity and God hates it, because when you speak the language of pity the focus is on nothing but you alone. 

Pity will make you feel miserable. 

Pity will steal everything good that God has blessed you with. 

Pity will even push you to hurt yourself. 

Listen, God doesn’t want you to come to Him begging for things in your life but He wants you to walk to Him as a son who knows what he wants. 

Mercy is knowing that the Father’s hand is over your life. 

Mercy is knowing that no matter what happens, God will work it for my good. 

It’s time to get rid of every self pity and victim mentality and walk with heads held high knowing that you are a son, and that the God you serve is a merciful God. 

XOXO
Author Kim D’Souza

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You Are Wearying God, And This Is How…

You Are Wearying God, And This Is How…

by | Sep 18, 2025 | Christian Walk, Healing & Freedom

Can the Almighty God who created the heavens and the earth get tired? Do you know that the Bible says that He does get tired? Want to know how? This is what Malachi 2:17 says:

“You have wearied the LORD with your words”

You can weary God with your words.

Again Malachi 3:13-14 says,

“Your words have been harsh against Me,” Says the LORD, “Yet you say, ‘What have we spoken against You?’ You have said, ‘It is useless to serve God; What profit is it that we have kept His ordinance, And that we have walked as mourners Before the LORD of hosts?”

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We may not outrightly speak like this. But when we say things like I am not good enough, I cannot do it, I am a loser, you are wearying God with your words, and thereby limiting God with your words. 

God wants to do big things in your life. God wants to give you nations(Acts 2:8). But when we speak things like How is it going to be possible? I can’t even speak properly, I’m not qualified, you are limiting God.

Do you know that one of the names of God is, “I Am”? And how many times do we take the name of the Lord in vain? When you say I am not worthy, I am incapable, I am so ugly, I am not beautiful like her or gifted like her, you are taking the Lord’s name in vain and you are wearing your God.

Your words are the only extent to which God will work in your life. If you think God can do only this much in your life, that will become the limit to which God will work in your life. 

Consider this: whatever you see God did for anyone in the Word of God is an invitation for you. If God can do it for Abraham, He can do it for you. If He can do it for Ruth, He can do it for you.

Only, never limit God by your own words.

XOXO

Author Kim D’Souza

 

Do You Really Have Faith? 3 Tests to Know

Do You Really Have Faith? 3 Tests to Know

by | Sep 8, 2025 | Christian Walk

How do we know if we really have faith?

Many times we are quick to say “Yes, I have faith”. But how do we know if we really believe? How do we really know if God’s truth has been established in our lives?

Here are 3 steps that will help you know if you really have faith:

tests of faith
  1. Do you believe in your heart?

If someone were to ask you “Do you believe that God can heal you?”, you would probably be quick to say yes. But do you really believe it in your heart? When we say “the Lord is my Provider, I will not lack”, do we really believe it in our heart? That is step one – we don’t just say it because religion taught us that, but because we really believe with our heart what we say. 

  1. Do you speak what your heart believes?

Step two is what you believe must come into action. And it first comes into action by what you say – not just what you say in church, but what you say outside of church. Because in the church there is an atmosphere of faith. But, if you are asked to open your mouth and praise Him when there is no music or worship team to cheer you, how do you praise Him? We need to speak what we believe.

  1. Are you confessing before men what you believe?

You will know your faith is complete when you begin to confess before men what you believe. Many believers say they have faith, but their mouth remains shut before unbelievers. Some of your colleagues and neighbors don’t even know that you are a Christian. Maybe because you are too scared to confess God before men. Or maybe you are not fully convinced yet of what you believe.  

Jesus says in Matthew 10:32, “Therefore whoever confesses Me before men, him I will also confess before My Father who is in heaven.”

The Kingdom of God is at hand. Can we analyze our lives by these three parameters and tell if what we really had was faith? Remember, without faith it is impossible to please God. 

Do I Need To Be Poor To Be Humble?

Do I Need To Be Poor To Be Humble?

by | Aug 26, 2025 | Christian Walk, Leadership

Do you know the teaching you receive has a direct impact on your life? That’s right. You cannot grow beyond the teaching that you are receiving.

So if you are receiving a teaching that says, “You need to be poor to be humble”, that is wrong. Because God is clear in His Word– He wants you to have life and life in abundance. (John 10:10)

And, abundance means overflow. That means you live in an overflow!

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When we don’t know this truth, we will be quick to judge a man or woman of God, or a child of God functioning in prosperity. 

Yet when we see somebody struggling to meet their finances, we think, “Oh! They are so humble”.

The truth is we are not running after money, instead we run after God. And when you run after God He will bless you with abundance. 

Now if you have been taught, or if you think that money is dangerous, and that the more money you get, you tend to stray away from God, then instead of speaking against abundance, there is something better that you can do. 

Want to know the better way?

The more you get, the more you give. 

This will ensure that your heart is not fixed on money. 

XOXO

Author Kim Dsouza

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Why Is God Not Working In My Life?

Why Is God Not Working In My Life?

by | Aug 15, 2025 | Christian Walk

When God told Moses to go to Egypt, He gave him the entire plan of how He was going to use Moses to deliver Israel. Moses, however, was hesitant asking what if they don’t believe me or what if they don’t listen to me. 

God assured him that He will do everything and all God wants him to do is take that step of faith. (Read Exodus 3 & 4)

And that is how God will work in our lives. 

God Not working, God is Good

We want God to intervene in our lives but there is something He is asking us to do. He is asking us to take that step of faith. Because without faith it is impossible to please God. 

So if you are asking, “Why is God not working in my life?”, remember that before God intervenes into your situation, He will always invite you into a partnership with Him. He will ask you to take that first step of faith. 

That is how God works. 

Maybe you desire to do further studies abroad and you are asking how will this be? How will I meet the finances?

And if you are waiting for everything to be budgeted correctly and the money to first come into your account, that is you functioning by fear.

But by faith God wants you to take that first step of faith. 

After God gave Moses all the details of how He was going to deliver Israel through him, He asked Moses what was in his hands. And Moses said he had a staff. 

So the Lord said to him, “What is that in your hand?” He said, “A rod.” Exodus 4:2

Later on when Moses took that first step of faith and left for Egypt with his wife and sons, the Bible says Moses took the rod of God.

Then Moses took his wife and his sons and set them on a donkey, and he returned to the land of Egypt. And Moses took the rod of God in his hand. Exodus 4:20

The moment Moses took that step of faith, that rod was now no longer the rod of Moses. It became the rod of God. Now the authority of God was in the hands of Moses. 

Whatever situation or fear you are facing, know that God is very passionate to make sure that you are not limited by it. 

But, you can’t stay stuck in that situation or in that fear believing that one day suddenly something will happen. 

It’s time to move out knowing who you are and who is with you.

You are anointed to break every bondage of fear over your life, only take that first step of faith. 

 

XOXO

Author Kim Dsouza

This Is The Reason You Lack Consistency In Reading The Word..

This Is The Reason You Lack Consistency In Reading The Word..

by | Aug 7, 2025 | Christian Walk

Wondering why you are inconsistent in reading the Word of God?

It’s simply because it has not become your lifestyle!

One day, as I was meditating on something, I heard the Lord say, “When something becomes your lifestyle, then I know you believe in its power”.

So, if your Bible reading is inconsistent, it means it has not yet become your lifestyle. Because at the heart level you still don’t believe in its power.

This applies to other areas in your walk with God, as well.

If you really believe that worship is takeover, you wouldn’t miss worshipping a single day. 

God's Plan

Maybe you are inconsistent in your giving or inconsistent in the way you are serving in the House of God. Again, it is because it has not become your lifestyle, and that’s because you don’t really believe in its power. 

For instance, if I know sugar is bad for me, and I still consume it every day, now it becomes my lifestyle. Because I don’t really believe that sugar is bad for me. But when it gets established in my heart that sugar is poison, then saying “no” to sugar becomes my lifestyle.

So, the reason why we are missing our time with God, and not deriving much from the Word is because at the end of it, we have other things that are more powerful in our life. Girls, this has to change. 

In this season, make reading the Word of God a daily custom, until it is fully established in your heart and it becomes your lifestyle.

XOXO

Author Kim Dsouza

 

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